Is it wrong to have a preference?

veggiegaybro · 2016-12-11T21:02:56+00:00

It's not racist to never be attracted to people who aren't Caucasian
It is racist to decide to ignore/reject all attraction you do somehow feel towards people who aren't Caucasian
It is not racist to announce that you're generally not into people who aren't Caucasian
It is racist to tell people you don't ever want "chocolate, rice or beans" - not because saying it is racist, but because you're essentially rejecting them before evaluating them at all, even if you'd never think you'd be attracted to a certain race. You're rejecting them based on race alone.

Can't help attraction. You can help your choices.

I find I'm only into certain guys from South American or European descent. I sometimes feel like I'm wasting the time of guys from (especially) African descent by not being clear that they essentially stand no chance with me, causing them to spend time on messages to me they probably shouldn't. This is because so far I've refused to put something akin to "no chocolate" on my profile, which is more ethical to me, but clearly has its downsides too.

neragera · 2016-12-11T07:05:07+00:00

No one knows you better than yourself. As Feynman said 'The first principle is that you must not fool yourself, and you are the easiest person to fool.'

Only you really know whether you're being racist or not. But don't fool yourself. It's a hard question. Figure it out.

Jobby_jabber · 2016-12-19T16:43:44+00:00

Fist off, this is AltTRP, not the purple pill. Purple pill is a hellscape sub from which good men never return.

People need to get their heads out of their asses with this PC bull crap. You cannot negotiate attraction, no matter how hard you try. No amount of "Big is Beautiful" campaigning is going to make a whale attractive to me unless I'm Ahab and I'm into that shit. Likewise, if I find I'm not attracted to people of a certain body type for any reason, theres not much getting around it.

Skin color is just one of many factors in attraction. It's not racism. Asking whether you are rasicist or not is exactly the kind of behavior that has taken gaybros down the feminist rabbit hole.

Millixaw · 2016-12-28T17:50:07+00:00

I'm only attracted to masculine men too, but not just white. I like white, black, Arab, Hispanic/Latino guys all around. These races tend to come across as naturally masculine, at least at first (of course there's a lot of fem white and black guys, after you hear them talk). I've rarely met a fem Arab.

I find myself rarely, if ever, attracted to Asian men. Even the "masculine" ones come across as feminine. The only ones I've ever done anything with are the Filipinos, and they're basically half-Latino.

So am I partially racist? Or is race/color attraction/unattraction not a racism topic at all?

wordsoundpower · 2016-12-30T18:57:25+00:00

You like what you like, man. Nothing racist about it unless it was based on a racist foundation.

Imagine if you asked the same question about being a misogynist because you haven't a desire to sleep with women.

Don't lose sleep.

should_ · 2017-01-21T07:31:00+00:00

You like what you like, but:

I get shit for that

This is because you are openly telling people your controversial preferences; big mistake. Instead learn how to let people down easy or don't go around saying you only date white guys. Even if it feels like your time is being wasted by getting hit on by someone non-white, give signs you aren't interested or tell them outright if you must, but gently, because that rapport can be useful.

Title	Is it wrong to have a preference?
Author	vancityguy96
Upvotes	6
Comments	8
Date	December 11, 2016 4:15 AM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/altTRP
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/altTRP/comments/5hobw3/is_it_wrong_to_have_a_preference/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/altTRP/is-it-wrong-to-have-a-preference.163401 https://theredarchive.com/post/163401

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