Scrote gets what he deserves

Leavix · 2020-08-19T17:30:07+00:00

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AITA for letting everyone we know find out about the details of the prenup I was asked to sign?

“Dan” and I were introduced by mutual friends two years ago, and lived together for one. Always a great, really equal relationship. This was super important to both of us because his ex fiancé was kind of a gold digger, and my ex boyfriend was really controlling of our money. So Dan and I always split all our joint bills down the middle, even though I’m a teacher and he’s in tech, which worked for us because we lived pretty frugally. All that to say that he’d mentioned wanting a prenup before we got married, and I was always totally in support of that, especially since he owns some property and we’d planned for me to be a SAHM for a while, so I wanted to make sure I’d be protected if we divorced then.

We talked a lot about how we were both planning to get married, the timeline, and he said he wanted to get our prenup figured out before the “official” engagement. Great. He handed me the paperwork two weeks ago and asked me to pick a time to sign it in front of his friend who is a notary, and I was…completely shocked. Basically, it said that he would get literally everything in a divorce. All property, money, retirement funds, and possessions. It required me to forfeit alimony and agree that if either of us filed for divorce, I would get 10k and market rate rent for a studio apartment for one year (which would also mean that I couldn’t have any custody of our future kids in a divorce since in our state you need at least one bedroom for them).

I was totally bowled over and when I tried to talk to him about it, he kept insisting it was fair, since I wouldn’t be working for a while once we have kids, so I wouldn’t be making any money, and I shouldn’t be allowed to keep any of his money in a divorce. He said we'd write a postnup when I went back to work. And I UNDERSTAND why he thought that was fair, but saying he'd take my kids and leave me in poverty if we divorced was so needlessly cruel.

The paperwork included a document for me to sign away my right to consult with a lawyer about it, but I asked a friend of mine who is a lawyer to look over it anyway. She did this on an informal basis, so there was no confidentiality, and I hadn’t thought about how she’s dating one of Dan’s really good friends. I also talked it over in serious detail with my best friend because I just needed someone else’s opinion on whether I was being unreasonable or my almost-fiance had done something super crazy. They both blabbed, and now basically everyone in our group of friends (including all Dan’s college friends) knows everything about the prenup, and think he’s a completely misogynistic villain. It even got back to his parents, who are super upset with him. Obviously we split up and I moved out, but me letting this get around seems to be basically ruining Dan’s life. One of our friends said that the family friend who hired him at his company heard about it and it's wrecked his reputation at work.

AITA for spreading around stuff he assumed I’d keep to myself?

jayda92 · 2020-08-19T17:24:02+00:00

Can you give a link or anything? I don't understand anything just that her ex is shitty and she is... Not on the bright side.

Title	Scrote gets what he deserves
Author	Leavix
Upvotes	3
Comments	6
Date	August 19, 2020 5:20 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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