A few observations. Women and feminine males tend to

  • Litter their sentences with first-person pronouns (I, me, myself)
  • Use personal anecdote when debating with someone
  • Have difficulty engaging in abstract discussion and instead discuss how it (whatever the topic is) makes them feel or how it affects them
  • Loathe generalizations (statistically valid generalisations included) and universals (such as broad theories of human nature like evolutionary psychology). Relatedly, they often confuse exceptions with rules.

The more feminine a person is, the more self-absorbed they tend to be. A constant barrage of "I, I, I", "me, me, me" flows out when they speak, alongside a constant personalisation of abstract issues or concepts. Listen to podcasts with women, or articles written by women, or women interacting in real life with another human, and this couldn't be any clearer.

To simplify my speculation as to why this may be so: Females are inherently more in-demand sexually. Being more in-demand bleeds into overall cognition to a sense of entitlement and self-absorption ("what can I get, what do I want"). This, of course, isn't conscious, and grows out of a mixture of feminine cognitive architecture and social feedback that reinforces the sense of being the prize (relative to the masses of invisible men). This entitlement bleeds also into women's difficulty with personal accountability ("given how inherently great I am (compared to the masses of invisible men), everything I do must be justified-- otherwise I'm not so great, and my entitlement is based on nothing".)

This feminine tendency towards emotionality and self-absorption includes males whose psychological dimensions skew towards the feminine (you'll find a disproportionate number of such men on the political left).

This isn't necessarily a bad thing, but it becomes noticeable whenever people try to engage in discussing ideas, and it also applies to the dating world. Over-reliance on emotions easily shuts down or overrides logical and empirical thinking. Women and feminine men make judgments on what they feel is right or wrong, and they maintain these initial knee-jerk feelings in the face of strong logical counter-arguments; instead of saying "oh I was wrong" they'll tend to feel "your points are hurtful, because they invalidate my feelings".

Given all of this, it's hardly surprising that:

  • When a woman loves a man, she loves how he makes her feel (and his potential) more than she loves him for the essence of who he is.

  • She thinks all the time about what she deserves and what she wants in a man, giving far less thought to what qualities the man may desire in her.

  • A woman's favourite topic is herself.

  • She finds it much easier, emotionally, to dump a man, than a man finds it to dump a woman.

When it comes to discerning reality solipsism has its drawbacks.

I'm referring here to generalisations about the bulk of the bellcurve; I wrote this on another forum and had to point out that exceptions exist, generalisations do not apply to everyone, and other tedious caveats, which should be self-evident in a place like this.