How to get over this resentment towards my husband

TheOuterRing · Fri Sep 4 14:16:20 2015 UTC

First off - I'm sorry to hear that. That's not a fun situation and it will take time to get through this.

Now, leaving him is a good option if after talking to him he continues to behave this way.

Now. If you want to fix this. You need to talk to him. That's the first step. Tell him everything you are feeling. There are things he is not doing properly as a husband, and you should not suffer in silence.

You also should get into working out. It does wonders to the body. And a lot of squats. Squats turns anyone's butt around to being nice and perky. If he's that bothered by your breasts, then save up and buy some new ones. Have him help you with that. Losing weight and toning your body will help firm up a lot. It will also make you feel so much better. But know this will take 1-2 years of working out before real, noticeable results kick in.

You can educate yourself on things to make yourself feel smarter. You can prove that you are worth more than this. Not just to him - but to yourself.

And honestly, it sounds like he's being a dick. "Lucky" or not you don't deserve that. No one does.

So either a) leave him. Find something better. Find happiness for yourself. Or b) continue to find happiness for yourself, but if it's to be with him, then you need to talk to him. And then hit the gym. Save up for a boob job. Pamper yourself. Buy a nice new outfit. Educate yourself online about something you enjoy. Read books. Take up a hobby.

When your confidence is low, it's visible. And people subconsciously react to it. When you feel beautiful, that also shows. And I know from experience that one way to feel better is to eat healthier and to work out. You look and feel better.

Suicide is not your only option. I know it can feel that way, especially if your are trapped. But the thing is you are bottling too much insid, and anyone would begin to think of self harm if they bottle too much negative energy. You need to let it out. Seek a therapist, and talk to your husband. He obviously married you for a reason - so you two need to reconnect on that level.

And if anything, keep on trucking for your baby. They will need you. And trust me - they will always find you beautiful. Find inspiration in love from your child, project it to yourself, and then to your husband. Again, just talk to him. Seek a counselor. And start a path of bettering yourself. You can do this. The fact that you are posting here shows you want to be better, which means you have the means to be. Just don't give up, and do this for you. Not him. You have to love yourself before anyone else can love you.

cats_or_get_out · 2015-09-04T15:29:10+00:00

Let me see if I understand the issues:

You are pregnant with this man's kid. This will be the second kid with a second man whom you are married to.
You have body images and issues that pre-date this relationship and pre-date this pregnancy.
You have child custody issues because of stuff involving BF#1 who thinks husband is abusive.
You are clearly depressed. You hinted that you a have history of depression. Pregnancy can exacerbate mental health issues. (I developed life-threatening postpartum disorder 10 years ago. Pregnancy is can affect your body and brain chemistry in profound ways.)

Here's my amateur, outsider view. I think you have some immediate and serious health issues to address. You need to tell your doctor about feeling depressed and about the suicidal ideation. No ifs ands or buts. I received a suicide letter from someone who shot himself with a shotgun in March. I am dead serious that you need to take the suicidal ideation seriously.

Your husband sounds like a dork, but this isn't about him. This is about you. Until you start getting healthy, you cannot be a functioning member in a relationship. You picked this guy and decided to have a baby with him. Babies and men are wonderful, but they cannot fix that broken stuff in us. We have to do that ourselves.

Make an appointment today for your doctor. Once you start getting better, you will be able to see this situation with more clarity. You don't have to be miserable. I know you're miserable. Get help, girl. I'm rooting for you.

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please reformat this using these questions and resubmit

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Title	How to get over this resentment towards my husband
Author	chloe1204
Upvotes	4
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Date	September 4, 2015 2:00 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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