saying sorry. when is it a good time ?

ConsciousnessisaGift · 2019-01-20T23:05:31+00:00

I’m going to go against the grain in this post thus far and say it’s fine to apologize IF you legit feel like you did something wrong and want to apologize.

Don’t apologize because someone asked you to, don’t apologize to defuse, don’t apologize because you feel obligated to. Apologize if and only if YOU feel like YOU should. And don’t apologize repeatedly. Do it once, do it right, and be done with it.

Don’t explain your actions or justifications when you apologize. Just apologize.

nu121x · 2019-01-20T23:27:35+00:00

Never say sorry unless the circumstances are extreme. When you are in the wrong, say "my bad" or "my mistake." Apologies really do make you look weak. Admissions of wrongdoing do not.

FeralRed · 2019-01-20T22:42:09+00:00

Never apologize.

NEVER.

Think about that for a minute. I'm serious, not being a keyboard Sage.

Why do you apologize? Really?

We apologize when we assume our actions have harmed others, and their feelings are therefore hurt.

Don't we hammer the fact that you can't change another's feelings here? That you're in no way responsible for how somebody else feels?

So, apologizing must be self serving, trying to make yourself feel better about some assumed slight.

That's weak. Trying to offload your sense of responsibility and accountability onto somebody else just to get transient absolution.

Fucking diversionary.

You did something wrong, fix it and don't do it again. Apologies are for napping idiots.

Wake up.

StopGaming1234 · 2019-01-21T00:43:46+00:00

Do not apologize if you did nothing wrong.

If you do not apologize despite you being wrong then it makes you look like an idiot. I don't care what you do with your friends, but apologizing if wrong shows respect and is especially important in a professional environment.

One time I overslept a meeting with a girl I was having a sexual relationship with. I woke up hours later to countless messages and missed calls. She was waiting 1 hour infront of my house. She needs atleast 1 1/2 from her place to mine. So in total she wasted 4 hours for nothing.

After realizing what happened I called her later that day and said I am sorry. No countless explanations, no excuses, no "please forgive me".

I set a new time one week later and had even more fun than usual ;)

Captain_Save_A_Hoe_ · 2019-01-20T22:37:08+00:00

As a man you don't need justification, you need to feel justified. It dosent matter even if you're wrong about something petty but your attitude towards life, the charisma and determination of your soul is the most important factor in who you are.

Look at this for a better view. https://youtu.be/txRL32-JPuQ

FiveStarTendieDinner · 2019-01-20T23:51:15+00:00

Never. Ever. Under any circumstance. Ever.

Title	saying sorry. when is it a good time ?
Author	XT3M3
Upvotes	2
Comments	20
Date	January 20, 2019 10:32 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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