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Wife has been getting upset lately on account of me not "acting like I like her". Is this a fitness test? How should I respond?

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January 25, 2014
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Title Wife has been getting upset lately on account of me not "acting like I like her". Is this a fitness test? How should I respond?
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Upvotes 11
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Date January 25, 2014 1:18 AM UTC
(12 years ago)
Subreddit Posted in /r/askTRP
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[–]blarsen80 12 points13 points14 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Fitness test. I had this one a lot when I was married.

If you've been following along you know better than to try and logically explain to her why you "like her". Women are capable of understanding logic, they just CHOOSE to disregard it. If you logically explain it to her you will end up in a 2 hour argument and at the end you'll be apologizing. FUCK THAT NOISE JACK.

[–]W_O_M_B_A_T 8 points9 points10 points 12 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

ignore, or irrationally escalate.

"like you? Ewww no. You're constantly smelling up the house with your womanly vapors"

[–]pheonixignition[🍰] -4 points-3 points-2 points 12 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

As he starts kissing her neck or something. That way she feels sexy, but toys her emotions, too.

[–]thecajunone 5 points6 points7 points 12 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link

Lol no. That ruins the frame completely. You have to make her come to you and then, only then do you give her positive reinforcement. It's somewhat like training a dog.

And next up on SRS: man in asktrp says women are like dogs.

This type of conditioning can work on both men and women, for the record.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

"What make you feel I don't like you"

address the irrational feelings, not with man logic but women feels

apply soothing feels to the burned areas

This is one of the most unpleasant things I deal with in life, the irrational feelings women have from watching TV, reading shit online or books and magazines.

"If he hasn't given you flowers / taken you on expensive trip / etc then he is - get this - falling out of love"

What the fuck, like love is something akin to a shower door and it can pop out of the track now and again.

Fucking senseless shit.

[–]DumpyLips 2 points3 points4 points 12 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link

I really want to see how asktrp handles this.

There's a difference between being strong/confident and just being emotionally unavailable to your significant other.

While I can imagine a situation where a girl is just trying to put her man through a shit test, I can just as easily see a situation where OP is taking rp theory too far and just being an asshole to his gf.

IMO I think there need's to be more info but I'd like to see what everyone else says.

[–][deleted] 4 points4 points4 points 12 years ago | Copy Link

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[–]RedBigMan 1 point2 points3 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Sounds like you are already well on your way to figuring out this marriage thing.

MMSL is like THE go-to book that TRP suggest as a reference to any man with a wife problem. From what I understand it's like a manual or guidebook to reframing your marriage. You spent all this time making a faulty frame so reframing it not going to happen overnight but like you said your marriage is already improving.

The bad news is you may actually have been dismissive of her. The good news is that this was almost certainly a shit test which means that the bad news is actually good news as well. You crushed that shit test with flying colors without even trying. The only way to screw up now would be to go back to her and apologize for this.

The reality of it is deep down she knows you like her. Women do this particular shit test to ensure that the man is more committed to the relationship than they are because the party that is the one willing to walk first if things go sour is the one who holds the power in the relationship. You want to take control and take charge she has to know on an unconscious level that you are the one with the power to end the relationship even if you choose never to use that power.

[–]Laughing_Jelly_Bean 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

The final necessary step to Redpill is taking charge. Have you taken charge of the relationship?

[–]spatz2011 1 point2 points3 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

too far? puh-leeze

[–]TehGinjaNinja 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Define "getting upset". What are her specific behaviors? For example her being nagging and argumentative, tends to indicate something very different from her being needy and crying a lot.

[–][deleted] -1 points0 points1 point 12 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Wtf is a fitness test? You mean a shit test?

[+]thehigheststatusmale -13 points-12 points-11 points 12 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link

its your wife dude. stop "gaming" her and be a good husband. god damn. you guys take this shit way too far.

[–]RedBigMan 6 points7 points8 points 12 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

^ Worst Advice Ever. No offence.

When you are married or in a LTR in order to maintain attraction and keep her happy you need to continue to game her. If you do not do this then her vag dries up faster than the sahara desert and you end up with a loveless sexless marriage and at a point it only takes 2 big fights before she divorce rapes you and takes half your shit.

LTR/Marriages enable you to mess up from time to time because the woman is heavily invested in you but you should endeavor to maintain an alpha frame and she should know that you do have options other than her but you are choosing her over those other options.

[–]thehigheststatusmale -1 points0 points1 point 12 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

By the time you're married, you should be the type of man who doesn't have to consciously "game" women. It should be who you are. There aren't two options, "game" or weak bitch behavior.

You're in too deep man. "game" is just a stepping stone to help you grow as a human being. Not the end all, be all.

[–]RedBigMan 5 points6 points7 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

I never meant it as in you need to treat her like some new chick you picked up. I was referring to 'game' as a set of behaviors that keep women attracted and interested in you and yes by the time you are married it should be something done on an almost unconscious level and not something you need to think about constantly or on a day to day basis.

It was just that your original advice of 'be a good husband' sounds so similar to 'just be yourself' advice that women give men and never ends well. My intent was for him to keep doing things that got her interested in him in the first place... After all if it ain't broke, don't fix it.

[–]SpecialBuddy 2 points3 points4 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

By being "good" we've somehow lost what we had when we were gaming them. Somehow we get reprogrammed during these shit tests and just need to know how to reprogram ourselves to stop reacting wrong to these shit tests. I read someone on here that said marriage is the ultimate game that you have to play perfect. With PUA you can simply next the shit out of everyone and are free to make tons of mistakes. Too many mistakes in the marriage game you lose control easy.

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