Can someone explain the benefits of speaking less and listening more?

Trp2727272 · 2020-09-05T20:17:24+00:00

You have 2 ears and 1 mouth for a reason.

2020-09-05T21:11:19+00:00

I see most younger men doing this, they think talking more means they are important and popular which will work if you're calibrated. Most younger guys ARE NOT calibrated to social cues and fuck up, end up looking stupid for talking so much and lose all credibility. Learning to listen, asking good follow up questions and making the person feel warm and special is how you create friends and people to be interested in you. It's inherently selfish that it works this way but winning friends and influencing others is all about ego stroking.

RPOpenUp · 2020-09-05T20:05:49+00:00

Completely wrong. People always want quality over quantity. So shtfu and speak when you have something usefull to say

JuicyJyles · 2020-09-05T22:37:59+00:00

"Only speak if it will improve the silence" -Plato

You'll be surprised just how well keeping your mouth shut if you don't have anything to say will get you, even on dates. Don't try to conjure up bullshit because the silence is uncomfortable for you.

2020-09-05T21:33:31+00:00

Still waters are deep and empty cans make the most noise...

Snowboard18 · 2020-09-05T23:37:38+00:00

So you don’t say some dumbass shit that makes you look like an insecure pussy.

All of us here are recovering insecure betas, don’t just say whatever comes to your head because that part of you may slip through

AntonfromDotA · 2020-09-06T04:15:13+00:00

When you talk, you give the best of yourself to others. When you listen, you consume.

Besides you have to be a very experienced plotter, if you want things to work your way.

It's kinda like the legal advise 101: don't say a word, let a professional speak on your behalf

michael1962-01 · 2020-09-06T04:57:22+00:00

you never been a leader.

you listen most time, tell who talks in a group setting, lead discussion but most time you are listening.

at the end you tell what will be done in a short way without taking any more opposite views.

in a social setting not the one talking most but the one people talk to most or want to talk to is the most important.

but those are often talking much when you see them in different environment.

if they are at a construction site they will be 'you do that, you do that, you do that' talking type for hours totally extroverted.

so rethink

inkwind · 2020-09-06T05:20:06+00:00

I'd rather listen to someone who says meaningful shit for 3minutes than someone who blabbers for an hour.

Imagine having such low status that speaking less discounts your entire existence. Come on dude.

Something of meaning never gets interrupted. Unless the one trying to jam in is someone who thinks he doesn't have any value because he is not speaking.

HurricaneHugues · 2020-09-07T11:13:11+00:00

If you get into a conversation with The Rock, would you talk more than him? If yes, why? If no, why?

Title	Can someone explain the benefits of speaking less and listening more?
Author	canceleee
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Comments	14
Date	September 5, 2020 8:02 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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