Confidence is not internal

RNAofYouListening · 2013-08-27T15:28:16+00:00

Well, confidence comes from knowing you can do it 'cause you've done it before. "Internal" confidence is a pipe dream.

AlwaysLateToThreads · 2013-08-27T15:45:21+00:00

I can get with this view on confidence. I never liked the view of confidence being some mystic inner force that attracts women. To me the that confidence is just a loaded word or a buzzword that people say because it sounds cool, but telling someone to be confident doesn't help.

Be strong, dominant, selfish, aloof, humorous, kind, funny, loving, etc.

Those words are much more useful than telling someone to be "confident" and to work on their mythical inner force. Working on outer easy to see qualities like strength and presentation will lead to better results. And then confidence will grow as a byproduct of success. In other words, confidence isn't the means to the end. It's the end as a result of the means.

neXianXavia · 2013-08-27T16:11:20+00:00

Thanks for the reminder that I need to do more, and think less.

Holy shit I haven't been doing enough.

md619 · 2013-08-27T18:40:26+00:00

I'm amazed how many people don't understand this. I got into an argument about the importance of spinning plates in order to keep up your confidence and abundance mentality, i.e adhering to Roissy's 7th commandment. The person I was arguing against was convinced that this was a "weak" and even "pathetic" way to get confidence, and that you should just somehow naturally feel this way. You can be happy and accept who you are, but what most sane men can't do it invent your own reality. Not for long at least. You either have value and options and act accordingly or you don't.

2013-08-27T15:52:03+00:00

To me this just says that internal confidence comes from outside sources. You can tell someone to "just be confident in yourself" all you want, but if they're a shitty person and they know it then they have no reason to be confident so they won't be. My own internal confidence comes from knowing that I'm the shit, I know this because of my accomplishments.

pontifx · 2013-08-27T19:08:27+00:00

While not internal it's combinatory like all other states of being. If you are a professional cup stacker and you think you are god among ants because you can bend time and STACK DEM CUPZ you can use that same fire to succeed in life because you know the way of being.

I was the best in the world at a few video games, that is what made me successful no joke. I laugh at it now (some of my close friends are the same way and on the same level) because to this day it's been my greatest choice. I determine on a very base level my confidence from things I can replicate anywhere without consent at any time.

Swifthand · 2013-08-27T17:24:11+00:00

Actually, I think it's a little bit of both - internal and external. Getting over a phobia for example, you need to work on your inner demons, and you also need exposure therapy. Exposure therapy without working on your inner self isn't good enough, and working on your inner self without being exposed to your phobia also isn't good enough.

Swifthand · 2013-08-27T21:19:42+00:00

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Title	Confidence is not internal
Author	redpillschool
Upvotes	23
Comments	21
Date	August 27, 2013 2:28 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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