Background: Happily married 13 years. I am 43 SMV 8, she is 38 SMV 9 (can’t beat those genetics). Typical beta upbringing and young adult life.

Early in my marriage I discovered I loved being naked outdoors and would frequent nude beaches when traveling on business. I rarely told my wife as she did not approve. This is not exhibitionism or anything sexual (no stupid, immature comments please), just a comfortable experience. Even though my intentions were good, the secrecy and guilt surrounding me going was not. It was a constant source of conflict and mutual resentment that remains.

I took the red pill about four years ago and have improved every conflict in my marriage except this. While I have a very European attitude toward nudity, she has the typical Puritanical hangups…“why would you want to… be naked? have people see you naked? have people see me naked?” My wife would wear a bikini even if I rented a private island. Sex is fine, so fortunately her prudishness hasn't affected that.

A year ago she agreed to a nude beach for one hour with no pressure. After five minutes she wanted to leave. I refused and stayed while she stormed off back to our hotel alone. I tried to maintain MGTOW and OI but with RedPill OD I failed the comfort test. To this day she says, “I fulfilled my promise. I went and will never go again.”

This summer we are going to the French Riviera, famous for nude beaches. She has already stated she will have no part in it.

How should I proceed?

  1. Apologize for last year and try to regain her trust to try again (seems very beta and futile)

  2. Just go alone but tell her and invite her to join me. Maybe drop a little dread on the way? (This is alpha but builds more resentment and distrust).

  3. Keep lifting and get over myself. (I’m not ready to concede. This is literally the last thing in my life I need to get in order.)

  4. Set-up a rewards system where I stop giving her gifts, affection, etc. consciously or subconsciously until she agrees. Two of my buddies do this to get anal from their wives but it very manipulative and reeks of a CC.