I go to an exclusive private school, and I have low status because I'm poor

monoaware · 2018-10-13T17:13:28+00:00

I graduated from a New England prep boarding school as a dirt-poor immigrant kid from a single parent household on scholarship. I know it’s hard to hear as a freshman, but don’t worry about respect and focus instead on maximizing the experience there. Have a four year plan ready so your success extends to college.

Respect will come the sooner you begin to excel in your studies and pursue organic interests uniquely your own. Instead of trying to beat others in already estabilished typical fields like fencing and basketball, be a leader and start shit and foster relationships with your favorite teachers and make them your mentors.

Hang in there, my first year at the school sucked ass.

Take dead aim on the rich boys. Get them in the crosshairs and take them down. Just remember, they can buy anything but they can’t buy backbone. Don’t let them forget it.

newlifeRP · 2018-10-13T17:29:32+00:00

Define respect first. You don't want respect, you want social validation, "to be popular". Social validation depending on the standards of whom? Kids that judge value based on your buying power? Seriously though... The problem is in your head, not out there (there's a different problem out there, but it's not yours to solve, so don't).

Do you truly want respect? Respect is earned. It is created when you demonstrate solid values and act on them, when you are honest with yourself. So respect yourself first, stop trying to be popular in their eyes and set your house (your values) in order. Respect from others follows from that. Then comes social recognition, but just as a byproduct; and at that point, it is already irrelevant.

Focus on what is meaningful, disregard what is expedient.

Kabuki431 · 2018-10-13T18:33:29+00:00

Nice so the other kids bought their way in. Now lets see if they can buy smartness and outsmart you ;)

HurricaneHugues · 2018-10-13T20:48:37+00:00

Ive been in a similar state of mind for slightly different reasons in the past. The only idea I can ofder you is that time will not stop there and that it is just a step in your life. The best thing you can do is not base your identity too much on your school environment. By that I mean, find away to have other social groups outside of school. Get a job somewhere, join a meetup group, find an extra cyrricular activity that doesn't involve any of those people. That way your sense of self worth won't just be measured by how you fit within that school's social atmosphere.

You won't care if Mike went flying or if Stan bought a some collectible car if you yourself have done things which you value. Be the mysterious kid that just isn't interested in any of them. They will notice your nonchalance towards them, trust me. Dont be impressed, don't be moved. Find thing stop do outside of school that they could never be a part of. Find things to do that will make you not care about any of those people. They will notice. They will wonder why the less fortunate kid just doesnt seem to be impressed or doesn't have time for any of them.

xx-Rain_Maker-xx · 2018-10-13T23:34:48+00:00

Swallow it, and keep focusing on school. It will pay off down the road, it could be in 10 years, bit it will pay off.

Ekhochambeer · 2018-10-14T03:35:13+00:00

Chances are no one cares if you are poor, they care about if you care if your poor. Join whatever clubs you want, you will get respect if you excel in it regardless of what it is.

Title	I go to an exclusive private school, and I have low status because I'm poor
Author	Honoangr
Upvotes	4
Comments	18
Date	October 13, 2018 4:08 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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