Tactful way to tell her I'm not going to see her anymore if she won't have sex with me?

[deleted] · 2016-12-04T23:46:30+00:00

Lmao you're begging this woman for sex.

teolinzo · 2016-12-05T00:04:51+00:00

I know here on red pill we discuss things like doing and saying things without worrying about the outcome and effects it will have on someone (man or women) because rationalizing your reasoning for doing something based on those effects only clouds your judgement.

What is your end goal? LTR? Is she just a PLATE you are thinking of giving a promotion? Or is this just some STR and you have others waiting for your call?

From what it sounds like she is trying to get you to let out that little "beta" side of you by getting you to commit to her as BF/GF type thing and then further wasting YOUR valuable time by "Taking it slow", even though you have fucked multiple times. It pretty much seems like a manipulation shit test which is something you need to just squash.

"If you don't want to have sex with me, then there's no reason for us to be pursuing this. If you want to have sex with me but are unsure of your feelings to the point you won't have sex with me, you're wasting both of our times. For me to know you're worth it, I need to see you're willing to sleep with me, while we both figure out our feelings."

Out of everything you wrote out and planned on saying, this is all you need to say. Literally. Everything else you want to say leading up to this is just you justifying yourself and your words which in turn shows weakness. Be strong and confident in what you say and be clear with your intentions.

In short, you should just tell the girl how it is and not worry about it. Abundance Mentality.

[deleted] · 2016-12-05T00:05:32+00:00

Ignore her for a week or two. The medium is the message.

FrameWalker · 2016-12-05T00:23:52+00:00

Well if this was an LTR it would be okay to "talk about things" because LTRs require a mix of beta. For girls you havent even slept with you STFU and communicate implicitly with plausible deniability.

Basically you scored as a beta in this girls evaluation of you.

last time I fingered her to orgasm, but she wouldn't even blow me.
Never do this again! You can tease. She should work to please you first and foremost. Girls will get on their knees and crawl to a man theyre attracted to kiss his feet and lick his asshole. If she doesn't no problem you walk away.

If you have a talk about this with her your 20% chance of sleeping w this girl goes to 0. Your best bet is to drop contact for 3 weeks and then invite her to a party where you bring girls that orbit you and other girls thst like you. Jealousy and preselection will rustle her flood gates to an appreciable trickle. It might be just enough for you to paddle your kayak upstream howver be prepared for winter to come and the lake to freeze dry at any moment.

When you do hang out if you hit LMR you stop kissing and being intimate immediately. Lighten the mood for 5 to 15 minutes and then make an excuse. "Hey im hungry gonna go eat ttyl" sort of thing. Dont talk about it. Dont pressure her. Dont stick around either.

Many guys will start textinf another girl upon hitting lmr. Mileage may vary.

Title	Tactful way to tell her I'm not going to see her anymore if she won't have sex with me?
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	0
Comments	4
Date	December 4, 2016 11:41 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/5gijp1/tactful_way_to_tell_her_im_not_going_to_see_her/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/askTRP/tactful-way-to-tell-her-im-not-going-to-see-her.182844 https://theredarchive.com/post/182844

Comments