I am trying to improve my conversation skills and after i got a match on bumble, this was my response to the girls first message. Can you guys critique it please? be harsh if you need to be lol

Officer_Dick_Johnson · 2016-09-09T15:27:56+00:00

Damn... You went from cool to needy in a second there...

Slow down. Give one question at a time. Give her a chance to ask a question.

trpthroway123 · 2016-09-09T15:41:36+00:00

in the past I would try to escalate too fast

The "closing our eyes" line is taking your first message ever a bit too far. You're implying being together with her and traveling the world, but haven't even met her. A line is getting crossed there, moving too fast, it's a bit creepy.

"What's your definition of adventurous?" is all you needed. Not intimidating. Nothing implied. Soft qualifier, she knows her response has to meet your standards.

If you're more playful, "what's the most adventurous thing you've done?" No matter what she answers, you have the obvious follow up of "I'd love to hear more, lets meet up and grab some drinks on Friday"

When everyone here says "text for logistics only", what they really mean is "keep it short, simple, and set yourself up to propose a meet early in the conversation."

If she's interested, SHE WILL MEET FOR A DRINK. If she's not, she wont. It's that simple, and trust me, she decided already.

[deleted] · 2016-09-09T15:41:56+00:00

Match her conversation style. She sent you three words. You replied with like fifty words. This shows over-investment on your side.

If she's interested she will now match your style and reply with similar length. But I'm betting that will not happen

MrBowlfish · 2016-09-09T15:38:39+00:00

Your response was just too long. It comes off as over-invested and you don't even know her. She should sense that you're screening your options because YOU HAVE OPTIONS. Your response reads more like, "Oh boy! A girl messaged me!" Next time just respond with something like, "BRB, climbing a mountain. Meet me at the top with a sandwich?" You gotta fuck with them. Make them laugh. Don't take them too seriously. Chad doesn't.

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