Did a Sexionnaire with my girlfriend, how should I react to this

[deleted] · 2016-06-01T14:10:15+00:00

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dominodog · 2016-06-01T14:26:31+00:00

Yes, you overreacted.

You are taking a survey on sex fantasies and she listed a fantasy which you then freaked out over. This is completely different from you hanging out one night and she suggests a threesome with your best friend.

Shaming her on her fantasies is a good way to ensure she doesn't open up sexually with you in the future.

Late30sMasculist · 2016-06-01T14:32:54+00:00

You basically said to her, "Tell me what your sexual fantasies are" and then you got butthurt with her answers.

You also entered the sexonairre game in bad faith by changing the rules once you started it.

She knows this now and you look shifty, because you are.

Had you kept with the sprit of the game, you only would have seen those answers from her if you had an interest in them yourself. Instead, you checked all the boxes to see the answers that she never intended you to see.

Your question is "how should you proceed?" Proceed the same way as you would if you snuck into her email or cell phone, found something you didn't like, and she walked in on you in the middle of your snooping.

That's basically the same thing that happened here.

TheRedStoic · 2016-06-01T14:58:38+00:00

Well, yes. You seriously over reacted.

If you're angry she lied, well now you know why she did, your reaction is a rather poor standard for communication.

If you're upset it's a fantasy of hers, don't be. That's standard. That's such a common kink it isn't really a kink.

If you're upset she told the truth, well can't help you there.

If you're upset that your mental image of her was off, that's okay, now get over it.

Hey man, you don't have to act on her desire, it's one of plenty I'm guessing. I wouldn't recommend it that's for sure, cuck breeds cuck and women tend to keep pushing the boundaries. But hey it's their nature. Let it slide and laugh it off, but be clear it won't happen.

Title	Did a Sexionnaire with my girlfriend, how should I react to this
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Date	June 1, 2016 2:02 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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