Everytime I tell her when to come over or she says when she will be over she asks "why does it matter avout time im coming over anyway"

Mobrowncheeks · 2016-05-26T23:56:29+00:00

Next time just tell her," be here at 9. Doesnt matter why. " then dont respond to her texts afterwards

stillnoturday · 2016-05-26T23:45:02+00:00

I see this as a prod to see if you have another girl.

[deleted] · 2016-05-27T08:13:53+00:00

I see it as her trying to suck you into her frame, make you justify yourself to her. People Explain themselves to their superiors, not subordinates. She wants you on her timetable not yours. She's the busy one fitting you in.

aDrunkenWhaler · 2016-05-27T00:35:26+00:00

It's not about other girls, she simply doesn't see your time as valuable, or at best not as valuable as hers. This is your fault, but you can fix it. First, don't bitch about it, hold frame and don't even make a big deal out of it. Instead, be busy. Have stuff to do that are important to you. Value your time.

If she says 9 and gets there at 10, tell her you're in the middle of something and make her wait for an hour. Read a report, do some tutorial or work task or something, but plan ahead. Hold frame and if she makes a scene or threatens to leave, tell her you understand and won't be angry at her, and get back to what you were doing. But don't make it seems you're butthurt for her not getting there on time. Make it look like it didn't bother you, in fact it was a good thing because you got to work on the stuff. Tell her you've been doing it for an hour and really got into it and want to get it done.

Next, move the time to 10 and say you have stuff to take care of. Again, don't mention her being late. If she asks, say it has nothing to do with it and she's just silly.

If she'll be late afterwards as well, move it to 11. If she says it's too late, tell her she's right, so it's best to leave it for another time. If she mentions other girls, laugh it out. Tell her there's one at 9 and one at 10. And another in the morning so better get some rest. Hold frame and don't see her.

Your time is more valuable then hers, but only if you have better things to do than wait for her.

Later edit: if it was me and she would be 30+ min late I'd make a long spanking session out of her missbehaviour or probably next her.

FakeGuru · 2016-05-27T11:58:59+00:00

This is not a difficult problem.

You say see you at 9 and that is the end of the conversation.

You are at your place just before 9 and you leave if she hasn't turned up my 9.20.

FrameWalker · 2016-05-27T00:23:29+00:00

She's sucking dick before she sees you.

FrameWalker · 2016-05-27T11:27:23+00:00

this really turns me off and wants me to just cancel the date.

Thats what I would do. Whenever a regular plate has been more tha. Thirty minutes late ive texted "something came up" and i leave

batfish55 · 2016-05-27T12:10:49+00:00

This is what frame control is all about. And you're in her frame. She shows up whenever the hell she wants, and you're ok with it, because pussy.

stickfiguresk · 2016-05-27T06:16:06+00:00

The only way she's going to appreciate your time/boundaries is if you enforce them. If she's early, turn her away. If she's late, make different plans.

Your a fussy fuck one day I'm gunna give a time but turn up a different one

Don't make idle threats. This is BP behavior, and she learned nothing from it other than that she can make you whine.

Pretentious_Designer · 2016-05-27T02:49:23+00:00

honestly if you're thinking this hard about it then you're not really internalizing.

She's comfort testing you, if you get fussy or defensive you're a bitch.

Title	Everytime I tell her when to come over or she says when she will be over she asks "why does it matter avout time im coming over anyway"
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Upvotes	13
Comments	29
Date	May 26, 2016 11:36 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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