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[–]RedAsBlood2 points3 points4 points 10 years ago* (2 children) | Copy Link
You've slept with her once. Don't push for commitment. Men are the gatekeepers of commitment.
You barely know this girl. Don't get ahead of yourself.
Just enjoy your time with her and keep doing what you are doing.
[–]__Archaeus__0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Whoa. Whoa... Dude, I hope that was a typo; but women are the gatekeepers of sex, and men are the gatekeepers of commitment.
Just don't steer the new guys in the wrong direction by accident.
[–]RedAsBlood0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
My bad. Thanks for that. I will edit it.
[–]NonMercurial0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Aight dude calm down. First of all take down those pics, putting that type of information out there can only do you harm. Next time just put her on the scale 1-10. Also that last pick of you doesn't favor you at all since you're slouching.
SMV doesn't just stem from physical appearance and how you dress. It's also shown in your body language, social skills, social proof, your profession, money, etc. It's the combination of how successful are you as a human being.
Now, honestly if I were you I would keep her as a plate for a while and see what type of person she really is. You're overthinking things too much, that much is clear. If you don't take care of this situation emotionally it might devolve into oneitis. I know it's your first time dude and a lot of us also saw a light in our partner's eyes the first time. Which is just you know, first timer stuff, nothing special. later on you'll realize it really was nothing special and you're just starting to feel this attraction to her because you've never been with a woman in this way before.
Your investment should always be less than zero. Unless she's a LTR in which case it should be about 40%. I mean but that all depends on what you want. From what I can gather you want this girl as your LTR but you're just asking us to be sure. As I said, wait a little bit before doing so, maybe after both proms. In the meantime just give her some positive reinforcement every time she does something you approve of and follow that rule with negative stuff as well. Again, investment: zero.
And if you do try to LTR, which you will, don't fuck it up by turning blue.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I took the pictures down. Thanks a lot for the advice.
In the meantime, can I go out with other girls? Should I expect for her to be polyamorous also? Is this a conversation we should have, or should I just assume that's the case?
Thanks for the SMV clarification too.
[–]NonMercurial1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I've never been in this situation before because I always clarify the type of "relationship" we have the first time we fuck. If I were you I'd make that clear at prom. Don't just dance with her, dance with other chicks as well and flirt with them, that way you can ease the topic in. You'll know what type of relationship she expects by how she reacts. Try to do this as well when you go out, flirt with a cashier casually and see gauge her response.
That's if you want to mirror the type of relationship she wants. Otherwise just tell her you were hoping for the other kind, whether that be polygamy or exclusivity. Always expect her to polygamous, AWALT.
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