How can I get girls to want to hook up with me instead of having to cheat on them because they wanted a relationship?

OmLaLa · 2015-12-15T18:18:24+00:00

Don't be a afraid of conflict, don't be afraid to stand your ground, don't be afraid of awkward silences, don't be afraid to walk away and don't be afraid of them walking away.

RPer and HB8 are driving somewhere:

HB8- "I'm looking for a boyfriend whose X, Y and Z."

RP- "...."

HB8- "What about you? What do you want?"

RP- "I'm not looking for anything serious like that."

HB8- "Really? Don't you fall in love/want to be with someone?"

RP- "I'm focused on myself/I don't have time for that/I don't want that."

HB8- "Oh."

[awkward silence]

[HB8 will likely break silence, especially if RP's SMV is high]

HB- "What do you do for fun?"

RP- "I row."

Check this scene objectively. She now knows that RP isn't interested in a relationship and is already barely providing validation. Why does she keep the moment going? Why doesn't she request to be taken home or fight back or argue , etc.?

RP's standards and intentions have been clearly established. He values other things over "dating". He didn't mislead her like "all the others" into a relationship just for the sex. He told her bluntly without caring if she disagreed/ran away. He's CONFIDENT.

This is how you avoid your problem.

[deleted] · 2015-12-15T17:09:18+00:00

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FrameWalker · 2015-12-15T17:44:29+00:00

Be more of a scumbag. Too nice she doesn't put out. Too douchey ONS. Just make small tweaks until you become "a cool guy" she fucks around with.

Title	How can I get girls to want to hook up with me instead of having to cheat on them because they wanted a relationship?
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Upvotes	4
Comments	10
Date	December 15, 2015 4:43 PM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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