I have a pretty basic question for some more experience folk:

Is there a way to get a girl to come home with you when she says that she doesn't have sex on the first night of meeting someone?

In my head, sex is a win win no matter how short the timeline between meeting and sex, especially when you're having amazing chemistry. I think fun, safe sex just leads to being more comfortable with each other on the day 2 and further down the line. The comfort factor is where I see the win in both parties.

A no-sex-on-the-first-night policy was a problem I encountered this evening and it was irrationally frustrating. I get it when a girl says no to escalating and blows you out, but this girl and I had been dancing, kissing, grabbing each other ect ect for a few hours, and she just wouldn't say yes to leaving the club. I even picked her up and starting walking towards the door but I could tell I was pushing it. Even our logistics were solid. We both lived walking distance from the venue. I also drove and had nothing to drink.

I got her number and the day 2 will be fun, but even so, I'd love to know if there's some way to push past this barrier other than being less outcome dependent on the sex.