Giving the girl your number instead of taking hers good idea or not?

prodigy2throw · 2015-02-16T14:13:41+00:00

See I've been thinking about this a lot. Online I always tell girls to text me and give them my number. 95% of the time they text me and this puts me immediately in control of the convo and I have strong frame since the girl has already invested way more than me. I end up meeting most of these women.

I'm still working on my real world game so I've only given my number to 2 girls and never hear from them again and they just text me their name immediately so they def want you to still take the lead. I think this speaks more towards my weak game than anything though. We'll see once I get a larger sample size.

Ultimately though I think it may work if you tell girls to take your number down. No point in wasting time texting or calling numbers that aren't interested. Everyone here says you can't build attraction through texting anyways.

tanny_ · 2015-02-16T22:24:07+00:00

You are better off taking her number dude. Instead of waiting around worrying like a beta bitch if she will text you or not.

Remember your are only texting to set a logstical meet. Leave rapport building in person. You approach her, you initiate texting, you pick the the place to meet and time. You are in control. because you are the alpha. and if she is reluctant than go you're own way.

good luck

oldredder · 2015-02-17T07:31:45+00:00

shouldn't matter.

rattamahatta · 2015-02-16T12:05:22+00:00

Doesn't work with 95% of women. You might have more luck with the 5% more mature or desperate ones or maybe with a wp that is dtf and even those are too submissive and they don't want to come across as too needy. None of that is a solution to your problem though - you have a high flake rate, you need to find the cause for the problem instead of avoiding it. And I can already guess what it is. You're spending too much time on too less girls, thinking up clever messages. Think about it. You're giving them free validation basically for owning a phone.

chadee · 2015-02-17T07:34:21+00:00

Sales 101: Always take the buyer's number.

As much as you want to assume a "buyer's frame," this is not how biology works. Women buy, men sell. Get the number.

[deleted] · 2015-02-16T15:16:31+00:00

No, it never works. YOU have to get the number.

Even if she likes you, she won't take the initiative to text you.

Title	Giving the girl your number instead of taking hers good idea or not?
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Date	February 16, 2015 11:42 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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