So I've noticed that these days it's very easy for a girl to be physically attractive. All she has to do is stay lean and have a good makeup foundation. Now I'm not saying that doing that isn't difficult or time consuming, but if a girl wants to be attractive she can do it.

Now for guys it seems to be a little different. I have been going to the gym for 2.5 years and have a great physique, better than most people in the gym. I have a good hair cut and decent style. I posted to ladybonersgw and had a lot of upvotes. But I am 5'9.5 which on the short side and my ethnicity isn't ideal. Is there anyway i can be physically attractive without surgery? I did get with women when I would go out to parties a few years ago but it was just way too much effort and too much rejection.

To me it seems like a girls have an easier time being attractive and can "hold court." I feel that if I am physically attractive then I too can hold court and have women chase me. What's the equalizer?Please don't say gym because again I have been working out for years and have a bodybuilder physique. Trust me it does not help anyone except guys who would get laid regardless. I feel like discussing this will help other people who are in a similar situation but are also looking to put work in.