My shoulders and neck are always tense, and I maintain this posture: http://www.empoweringparents.com/files/articles/photo/article_fb/is-your-child-being-bullied-what-you-can-do-to-help-them_Article.jpg. It is as if I am preparing to get beaten (which my mother used to do all the time when I was a child).

I tried stretching my shoulders and neck, but this does not work. The only time when they untense and I feel confident is when someone gives me a massage, but this does not happen often.

Anybody else has this experience?