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so i met a girl at homecoming last night and we made out. should i text her today or wait a few days?

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October 19, 2014
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Title so i met a girl at homecoming last night and we made out. should i text her today or wait a few days?
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Upvotes 4
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Date October 19, 2014 4:59 PM UTC
(11 years ago)
Subreddit Posted in /r/askTRP
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/2jpbqa/so_i_met_a_girl_at_homecoming_last_night_and_we/
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[–]1likechoklit4choklit2 points3 points4 points 11 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link

Do whatever the fuck you want to do. Do you want to text her now? Then do it. Want to talk to her, then call. The end result will barely be affected.

This isn't that hard. Girls aren't special, they're just as horny as you, all you have to is cultivate an atmosphere that allows her to share that horniness. Time between texts doesn't actually matter when measured in the span of hours vs. few days, and if it does, she's fucking crazy. Waiting 3 days or other esoteric advice is just as bad as that advice you see written by women for women in grocery stores.

Don't spend so much time worrying about how a "real" alpha does things..."real alphas" don't worry about such things (if such a thing really exists outside of masculine internet fantasy), and assuming they do exist: they simply do what they think is correct. Then they are honest about it. Then they stand by it until/if presented with better evidence.

[–] points points points 56 years ago | Copy Link

You are correct, but only in this case, because when you call her does not matter much.

If you would give this advice in almost any other thread, it would be terrible. If a thread was about the guy being needy, you wouldn't tell him "Do whatever the fuck you want" and "Don't spend so much time worrying about how a "real" alpha does things". The problem is that people come here because they don't display alpha behaviour, so telling them to do what they want leads to them doing the wrong (beta) thing.

But as I said, in this case it is okay because this really doesn't matter.

[–]1likechoklit4choklit0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago [recovered] (1 child) | Copy Link

I appreciate your perspective. There were no qualifiers in many of the other responses however. So the OP received this tacit permission to continue worrying about esoterica rather than big picture concepts relevant to confidence and projecting confidence.

I think we may have a fundamental disagreement of what causes beta behaviors, however. Many "beta" behaviors are pro-social at the cost of self satisfaction. Hemmed in by the desires of some concept of society, a beta feels unsure about what they can do exert more of their own identity in the world, be it sexual access, asking for a raise, or standing up for their own opinion. What is lacking is an ability to back burner those pro-social instincts (which preserve the OPs concept of social good) for what is immediately desired. With this as a framework, you can see how it gets adopted even in an all male, red pill environment, where the OP is concerned about running the red pill algorithm correctly for social acceptance/permission, rather than really isolating what they want out of the situation.

Response time for a text is not a thing that confident people prevaricate about, let alone seek advice for. The advice request was NOT spoken of in terms of how psychologically effective a tool is it to wait, but was more seeking out what a redpill (tm) branded version of how to behave was. My response was about freeing that perspective of unnecessary mental perimeters and speaking more generally to what the OP seems to desire: Self-respectibility, a small measure of conquest, and comfort in a world that is now straddling many different ideals of manhood, some of which are quite disempowering.

So, OP, I apologize if my post was gruff. It may also have made some assumptions based on word choice that do not truly represent you, these things happen on the anonymous platform of the internet. However, I stand by the major gist of my assertion: worry less about alpha/beta considerations and be totally honest about what you want, as soon as you are consciously aware of what your desires are.

[–]ConstantWpierdol-1 points0 points1 point 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Do whatever the fuck you want to do.

Came here to write this, you anticipated me

[–]Endorsed Contributorfnordsnord0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Wait at least 1 day, but no more than three. Set up your next date, then stop.

[–]1oldredder0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Homecoming already over... seems like you missed the ride.

I didn't even realize it was homecoming when I was out, just went drinking at a friend's place. That's OK, I'll wait till halloween for the superslutty outfits but I admit, I missed it - would have been a great time to practice all the pickup stuff. Wasn't even till 2:30am I got a cab home and I barely got one at all because they were all being called for homecoming drinkers.

Depending on the parties, the drinking, how much/little time you spent with her she may have fucked other guys or made out with other guys and not even remember who you are much less that you made out with her. It's homecoming after all... not just a normal party day. Shit gets crazy for homecoming.

[–]Senior ContributorSkorchZang0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Yeah, you want to give it a couple of days at least. Main reason, it's so that she has a good chance to wonder about you and to text you herself.

If she never does, no big deal, she's the girl... you will take up the slack this once. Text, make her laugh, invite her out with you, instantly get the fuck off the phone. Don't be caught dead texting back and forth with her about shit that doesn't matter, like everything, except for arranging the next excuse to get together and make out.

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