Previous Update http://www.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/2g82xx/divorce_update_3/ A bit longer between this one and my last one because things are moving slower now.

Me and my wife decided to try and save our marriage. She said that she really missed me and loved me and I just didn't give her enough affection or gifts. So I've started bringing her a flower a day and writing her a letter to take to work that she can read. She said I need to stop looking at other girls because it makes her feel sick and I should probably quit my job so I can stay at home and make sure everything is kept clean and tidy for when she finishes her work. I mean, she is a unicorn so obviously I want to make her happy as best as I can. Thank you so much to this sub for helping me realize what I needed to do to maintain a successful LTR.

( /s in case you are confused)

Almost reminded me of my old self writing that. On a more realistic note -

My lawyer brought up a bunch of good information for me, if anyone is on the fence about seeing a lawyer for marriage/common law problems, book a consultation and go. Do yourself a favour and get your personal shit sorted so you know what rights and responsibilities you have.

I'll be paying her the retainer shortly for her to draft up a separation agreement. The only thing she advised me against, was our agreement for me to not pay child support, and instead buying all of the children's "necessities" (something my ex and I thought could work). She said that if it ever got ugly, it would be easy for her to show I never supported her expenses of taking care of the children, and would probably owe a lot of back pay to her. My Ex still has yet to see a lawyer, or even inquire about one.

Living with your Ex sucks. Especially going through something like swallowing the pill. You see all the changes you could have made to keep the relationship, and it sucks knowing that it's over. I know abundance mentality, keeping myself busy, and only dealing with her on a need-to basis are what will help me right now, but my current situation has me more or less waiting at home until she gets off work.

She's dating the guy that she left me for. Apparently they already "love" each other (2 months) and he wants her to meet his daughter and go to her birthday party. He also calls her his unicorn, which I found pretty hilarious. As much as it sucks knowing the woman you spent 7 years with can so easily move to another guy, I can't think of a more blatant example of hypergamy.

The biggest problem I have with her right now, is she is asking for advice from this guy about our children, or showing him things, before me. An example: She painted our eldest son's fingernails (he thought it was hilarious), but asked him if he thought it was inappropriate, or not "gender strict" enough.

It sucks knowing there is little I can do about her doing this; if I act hurt/upset, she will do it more to spite me. If I ignore it, she will show her BF for validation.

Curious if any of you have handled a situation like this before, or any advice on what you would do.

I get my own car tomorrow, return to work in 9 days, and will be moved out in a few months, where we will start weekly switching 50/50 custody.

Trying to keep busy is my biggest problem right now. Finding things to enjoy going out and doing, finding time to read redpill material, or time to approach and have day-game is all something I need to work on. Taking care of children at home is not difficult, but I would rather play with them then read, until the end of the day when I feel like I didn't further myself very much and regret not doing something more productive.

A few of you have said you liked the updates so far, and I am trying to provide them as things develop. Any questions about marriage/divorce and my current situation you have I will answer; but I am not a lawyer, and I live in Canada, so only personal things will be relevant.