I recently moved to a small college in NY from a culture that is fairly conservative and religious. We date and sometimes make out if it's serious enough but never fuck. This is partially for religion and partially because it's impossible to get a girl to fuck you even if you're the hottest alpha out there. Alpha's get cute girls and date numerous girls at once but don't fuck.

Now that I'm in NY, I've been trying to build a social circle and it's going fine so far considering I've been a week here. Very close with two female roommates and making great impressions with their friends, using meetup.com to go watch games of sports I'm interested in, and went to my first party last week.

I worked the room properly and confidently like I belong and got a cute girl's number, we were flirting hard and I kept leaving her and talking to other girls and going back to her which drove her crazy. 3 days in now, I haven't called her out of the fear that things will escalate and I'll have to fuck her. I fear it'll be emasculating, unexpected, and even gay in this culture.

In my nice guy days, I fucked a girl twice and I was shit. I was so nervous and she was so horny with much more experience and leading/teaching me basically.

It's also why I haven't really done anything with my roommates' friends because I told them I had sex before so now they'll start doubting I ever had sex.

To be perfectly clear, I won't change my morals. The typical answer is check your testosterone levels but my testosterone levels are off the charts since I stopped fapping and exercising regularly. I'm asking about techniques, perspectives, or past stories on how I can make the best out of this. Girls are the gatekeepers of sex so how could I use that to my advantage since I don't want what they're so dearly guarding?