Complaining. Life, Work, ETC.

[deleted] · 2014-07-23T16:38:19+00:00

Yeah, I've made a commitment not to complain anymore. Just don't use the word sucks anymore, and it seemed to help me.

Dimsml · 2014-07-23T17:26:28+00:00

Maybe a bit of self-administered CBT will help?

Try to understand why you want to complain, what do you want to achieve, will you really achieve this?, etc.

I understood that when I complain I want people to take Care of me / help me, etc. They won't so now I try to tell myself not to moan and complain, since they a) won't take care of me b) think I am a wimp / I whine too much etc.

It helps, although not entirely.

EDIT: Tons of spelling stuff fixed

M_ouserat · 2014-07-23T17:38:43+00:00

Complaining can be a negative activity if you only see yourself as the victim. When I catch myself complaining a lot, I go into a state of gratitude, be grateful for all the shitty things in your reality, they're there to add contrast and to point out you have the ability to change them or accept them.

maniac918 · 2014-07-23T17:57:42+00:00

Take a look at who you are hanging out with. Complaining is contagious, like gossip.

I was mutual friends with several of my wife's friends. But when they get together, all they did was talk about people and judge them. It was a very negative vibe, so I stopped hanging out with them. Makes a world of difference in your attitude.

DrakeSaint · 2014-07-23T18:33:15+00:00

Start questioning your friends with "Yeah, but do you have control over it? Could you possibly do anything to help it?".

If they reply a negative, then there's nothing you or them can do about it, it's a dead horse being kicked, and it's time being wasted by you and your comrades, and you should let them know it. Time is better spent trying to come up with ways to solve issues, or focusing on things you can solve.

If it's a positive, then work together with them to do it, instead of bitching.

Title	Complaining. Life, Work, ETC.
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	6
Comments	5
Date	July 23, 2014 4:17 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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