Not lacking confidence, but one small hangup.

anonysaurus · 2013-11-03T16:31:32+00:00

TRP is about being a better man. You have exactly two options.

Be comfortable with who you are
Fix your insecurities man, don't mask them.

[deleted] · 2013-11-03T17:30:54+00:00

just be cool with who you are. I used to be insecure about my stomach too but one day i stopped giving a fuck and ive been great ever since. For me, exposing my stomach to other people whenever I could kind of helped just so i could get used to other people seeing it. For example, when I played sports Id wipe the sweat on my face with the bottom of my shirt and just let everybody see my stomach. eventually i got used to it and i felt as though other people felt more comfortable around me too because I was comfortable with myself.

[deleted] · 2013-11-03T21:44:51+00:00

Try keto. You can eat whatever you want so long as it is meat or non-starchy veg. After a month you will be ready to kill an old lady for a bagel, but it works for reducing body fat. Then you can bring carbs back into your diet, repeat the keto for a few weeks as needed.

Theycallmegrif · Sun Nov 3 21:49:26 2013 UTC

I'm in much worse shape than you are, guaranteed. Take your time in foreplay, and you'll find a lot less lmr. If a woman looks at your body and says something like "I didn't sign up for this", take off her bra and ask her why her tits dropped. You can always ask her to leave playfully, or seriously. I mean, if you're not going to close, you might as well not close with some respect

redbluepilling · 2013-11-04T08:24:38+00:00

it hurts my frame a bit.

Right, so, it's confidence. Stop giving a shit in the bedroom. You can care outside of it and get your diet in order, but not in the damn bedroom. You're already at the point in which she'll sleep with you and it's not because of how you look physically. You wouldn't be in that situation if it was just looks. So, stop fucking it up for her. She doesn't need a dude that gets self-conscious right before sex.

drrtyfrrnr · 2013-11-05T16:05:35+00:00

If women are surprised, I'd bet you're fatter than you think you are. Maybe you just hide it well or you hang with fit-types so its assumed you are about as fit yourself, but I recommend taking some of the advice in this thread and getting rid of the bulge.

[deleted] · 2013-11-03T16:58:16+00:00

You know what you have to do. Get down the gym and sort it out.

I can't lose that last flab.

Yes you can. If this was a women, people would be bullshitting that she is beautiful just as she is etc. etc. We are, however, men, so you know what to do. One of the greatest things about being a man, is that barring a disability, all of us can have a good body. Women have to be born a certain way, all men can sort out their diet and lift.

drrrrrr · 2013-11-04T07:03:03+00:00

It's only a big deal if you make it a big deal. Girls are too anxious about their own imperfections to give a shit about your imperfections.

But you can lose the flab. Diet and exercise man. Commit to 1 diet plan for 3 months and keep tinkering with calories until you find the amount required for you to lose a steady 1 lbs per week. Accept that the first month will not produce great results, but rather identify the caloric values necessary to produce the right results in the following months.

youngbulker · 2013-11-07T15:02:38+00:00

If it's that big of a deal why not just go on a 6-10 week cut at a 10% caloric deficit? You could even just eat at maintenance and recomp (body fat % drops while maintaining same overall weight). No need to lose carbs by going some drastic diet rout like keto, those are our main fuel source. Just eat at a caloric deficit.

Title	Not lacking confidence, but one small hangup.
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Date	November 3, 2013 4:28 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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