There have been several posts on /r/askMRP about developing OI. There are several ways of developing OI and I believe they come down to; the kind of person you are will make a certain perspective make sense over another. While both methods will create a better YOU in the long run, pick the one that makes sense to you now and put it into action.

Abundance:

There is something to be said for options.

You drive down a street and you are starving. You pull out Google maps and it tells you that there is one restaurant with-in 200 miles. Your options are skip it or pay whatever price they ask in order to eat.

Same scenario, only there are twenty restaurants on the same street. Now you can choose which restaurant meets your Requirements and they have to fight for your business. Marriage is in effect, the same thing.

If you have become a fat unattractive slob that only earns a paycheck, you have reduced your options. Most likely your own wife won’t want you. YOU HAVE DONE THIS TO YOURSELF. The upside is you have the control to reverse it. By following the sidebar, lifting, finding hobbies and becoming someone that is actually interesting and attractive, other women will start fighting for your attention. You will have the option to have women meet your requirements not the other way around.

Process not the Goal: (This was what did it for me)

Regardless of what goal you have set, what happens if you don’t reach it? For many, it is a time to trouble shoot why you failed and make correct actions, Adjust Fire, until you are on target. What about everything you learned while attempting to reach your goal? To borrow from “Rudy”

Rudy: I wanted to run out of that Tunnell for my dad to prove to everyone that I worked...
Fortune: PROVE WHAT?
Rudy: That I was somebody.
Fortune: Oh you are so full of crap. Your five foot nothin', a hundred and nothin' and hardly have a spec of athletic ability and you hung in with the best college football team in the land for two years, and you were also going to walk out of here with a degree from the University of Norte Dame in this life time you don't have to prove nothing to nobody except yourself and after what you gone through if you haven't done that by now, it aint gonna never happen, now go on back.

He was so focused on reaching his goal of playing on the field during a game he didn’t realize the process of getting a degree from Notre Dame. Similar to how most men here are so focused on the goal of cumming inside your wife that you forget about the process of being awesome, fun and filling your relationship with sexuality not just SEX.

If you can enjoy and learn through a process whether you reach a goal or not, you will be less frustrated if you don’t reach the immediate goal. You have still learned skills or things to avoid and improve yourself.