Dark Triad - Narcissism

Warning: This series is going to trigger bloops and reds alike.

  • First Installment - Machiavellian
  • Second Installment - Psychopathy
  • Final Installment - Narcissism

The last installment of the Dark Triad personality type we will investigate is the Narcissist. Narcissism is a mental disorder that is exceedingly rare in the population (<1%) and is a trait that exists in every person. Classically it would be a person who has a lack of empathy and a need to be in the spotlight. This is what you would call the arrogant person who has a contant need for admiration. This disorder comes with some very desiarable traits that we can use for our own purposes. The larger question is, can we immitate some of these behaviors for our own gain in love/life?

  • Superiority Complex
  • Associate with other gifted/unique people
  • Obseessed with success/beauty/power
  • Use others to fill own goals
  • Arrogant attitude
  • High self esteem/confidence
  • Demands special treatment

Superiority Complex

The superiority complex is a very useful tool for the red pill man. There should be a need or desire inside of you to be better than the next person. Usually someone would describe a complex as a defense mechanism, but it can be more than that. The attractive part of the trait is that you become the best in a specific area that you have been working. This ties into your frame. Let's take lifting for example and the natural superiority complex that comes with it. When we start at the gym, especially as me, and have never lifted weights before. There exists an inferiority as you compare yourself to others in the gym. The guy in the mirror getting the pump from the 25lb barbell around his 125th rep knows what narcissism is. Yet, as we lift regularly, and our squat moves from 45lbs to 300lbs, there is a natural tendency to feel better and stronger than others. As you walk around at work you notice that other men are weaker than you. This feeds into the next thing.

Be obsessed with your appearance. You need to go see a professional to get your hair styled. Buy some new clothes that fit really well. Start eating better. Once you look good, you are going to start feeling good. When you start feeling good and being attractive, the next thing comes with it.

High Confidence

Confidence is the knowing that you will succeed (self-assurance) and display this behavior outwardly. This is a very attractive trait for a male to possess. Many people believe that you either have it or you don't. This is simply not true. Confidence is a learned trait, and the earlier you learn the train the strong your confidence naturally is. This is something that you need to fake until you make it. If you are spinning plates you can understand how confidence is important in drawing people to you. There is a book "When I say no I feel guilty" and it has a nice quote that says "People only have so many no's" and that is true. One step to building your confidence is to start training on how to overcome rejection. Then we can you can realize that someone will say no only so many times you can begin to use your confidence to manipulate others into accomplishing things you want to be done. There was also a semi-well known user /u/[deleted] that wrote a really interesting post called Irrational Confidence.

Law of Power #6 & #7

"Everything is judged by its appearance; what is unseen counts for nothing." -6

"Use the wisdom, knowledge, and legwork of other people to further your own cause" -7

Many people on here have asked me about career guidance and help in promotions or pay raises. My answer is always the same. You have to be seen working on the big important projects and manage your perceptions. Many managers wrongly do not care about their work horses. The person who does the eight and skate but completes all of the boring work everyday is the most secure person in that office for their job. They will routinely be overlooked for everything of importance to their career. Only when they turn in their notice will they ever be offered something out of the ordinary. The great employees are rewarded more often because they will leave if you do not. The work horse is tied to his plow.

Enter the obsession with power. The narcissist wants people to see him, and wants people give him special treatment. You need to possess the desire and the will to go out into the world and take what you want. Be willing to earn it, and earn it smartly.

  • Ask people for favors with no intention of returning the favor.
  • Return the favor if it is advantageous to you.
  • Share credit when you can. If it goes sideways others can take the hit for you.
  • Play people against one another to suit your interests.
  • Look out only for yourself, and your direct superior.
  • Some colleagues are disposable, they are your base of power.
  • Use others as scapegoats to keep your hands clean.
  • When you do something important, make sure it is seen by your superiors.
  • When you fuck up, make sure your superiors don't know it.
  • Only closely associate with other high powered colleagues.

Your relationships

When it comes to women, some things hold true more than others. AWALT is not always AWALT, unless it's AWALT. This should remind of you the adage "Be mean, Keeps her keen". A narcissist in a relationship is going to do the following things:

  • Constantly degrade her
  • Constantly test her
  • Reward when passed
  • Guilt her

The narcissist is doing all that and the woman would never even think about leaving him. The men in those relationships, albeit, are taking this way too far even to the damage of her psychologically. When used by the red pill man he can dial these behaviors down, and tweak them to his individual woman.

Example time. When is the last time your wife/plate came out of the dressing room and you simply asked "Is that what you are wearing tonight?". Probably never, right? Are you afraid she will get mad at you and hurt your feelings? When she asks what's wrong with the outfit simply tell her it looks plain. No one wants to be a basic bitch. When she goes back and comes out stunning. Time to reward her in your own way. Notice how her face lights up and she becomes happy. You just manipulated her and she is happy for it. Funny how it works like that.

Conclusion

There is nothing new to learn in this post. You need to have high confidence, look attractive as you can, treat people in a way that gets results, and try to succeed at work. Narcissistic tendencies are centered around yourself and no one else matters. This means to put yourself first in your life, even to the detriment of others. There is no such thing as brotherhood in this life. There is no honor in going down with the ship.