A classic, now on the Wiki

SteelSharpensSteel · 2017-10-09T14:09:44+00:00

https://therationalmale.com/2013/01/30/choreplay/ <-- It's almost like I could respond to everything with a RT post, and they get better every time I read them.

To me, Owning My Shit is owning everything about myself, my first officer, and the anklebiters, as well as the house. I run my place like I'm single. In my house, my wife is also expected to do things, such as cook for example.

Owning her shit... you never own her shit. Do captains own the first officer's shit? No. She has stuff she needs to do, and she does it. I have stuff I need to do, and do it. Maybe you can call it adulting 101, but get your stuff done.

Doing things because they need to get done... again, you have stuff you need to do, she has stuff she needs to do, so do the stuff you need to do.

Granted, there might be times when your wife is overwhelmed - it's not a big deal to say "I got this." and do a bit extra. Same difference when you are out of commission - there was a time last week when I ran a 102.5 fever and crashed with cold shakes and sweats, my wife picked up the slack without complaint.

It's not about keeping score with chores. J10 had a great post about this - you need to get to the point where she is trying to keep score and comes up to you and says "Where's the scoreboard?" "I don't know honey, but we're headed out tonight." insert awesome frame here

Throw out the scoreboard. And for Pete's sake don't do choreplay.

bogeyd6 · 2017-10-09T19:28:25+00:00

I even wrote a post about this for choreplay. In the end, if you set an expectation and don't enforce it. No amount of firing the customer is going to help you.

screechhater · 2017-10-10T00:12:14+00:00

The biggest obstacle is understanding exactly where the thresholds lie in, there as, this is not only not good for me, but what about my time and my needs ?

There is only so much you should do to make the relationship work, then it becomes unrealistic

[deleted] · 2017-10-10T11:03:22+00:00

The problem is that most guys at least in the begging for have nothing but nuclear options to enforce with because their expectations are worthless to the people in their lives

You can't enforce anything unless you have an effective way to do t.

Some are at dirty dishes = divorce. No subtlety - which is necessary in the beginning.

ReddJive · 2017-10-10T14:47:44+00:00

That pos is fantastic. Really cemented my turn around.

The only ting I would add to this is that you don't live in filth. I say this because my shrew despises doing the dishes and laundry. She has a reason but it's firmly embedded in feminist thinking that i cannot dislodge. Literally laundry would be knee high at times...and she is/was a SAHM.

I am out of sticks and I am out of carrots. The end is nigh.

Live as if you were single. Shit needs doing so do it. You aren't doing it for the praise, like pointing out "I am a good little boy. see see see"

Title	A classic, now on the Wiki
Author	SorcererKing
Upvotes	23
Comments	16
Date	October 9, 2017 4:44 AM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MarriedRedPill
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