Girlfriend of 6 years moved out. Cries because shes not sure if shes able to open up to me again or not. What do I do?

Alphaphux · 2017-08-31T03:25:52+00:00

Another 5 weeks and you'll be able to sign up for Mr Universe

[deleted] · 2017-08-31T04:41:18+00:00

Her Her her her.

You clearly are LIVING in her frame.

Which means your own is non-existent. No wonder she moved out.

I don't want to dump her and thats not the advice im seeking.

She's already gone. She dumped you.

Rightly so. You're a miserable excuse of a man.

Use this time to work on yourself, unfuck your mind. DO NOT go back and lick up your own vomit. (rooting through the garbage)

She's gone.

You won't be able to change the image she has in her head of you, which is a spineless needy argumentative bitch. In other words, her girlfriend. I bet your periods even matched up.

You have massive oneitus.

The best way to get over a girl is to get under 10 other girls.

Unfuck yourself, then decide what you want.

AustralianArm · 2017-08-31T03:31:48+00:00

Chalk it up to experience.

Start working on yourself.

ziggzz84 · 2017-08-31T03:34:07+00:00

All I'm saying is that you dodged a bullet there man. Don't get distracted by sunk costs, the time is gone and that's not going to change. The only reason to continue this relationship is if it's going to change on a fundamental level.

I would suggest moving on. However, if you have something to say about her virtues and why you want her, then I'm all ears. I've obviously only heard a small amount of the overall situation.

CNNDoxxedMe · 2017-08-31T03:45:18+00:00

You habitually argued with her, then lost your frame and mocked her with calling her names when her answers did not meet your qualifications of "good enough".

I'm sensing that you are young, so these questions might not have much bite with you but:

Would you treat an employee you manage like this?

Would you treat a child that depends on you like this? Calling them names and mocking them?

Would you treat a friend like this?

If so, you're a simple asshole. And you don't "deserve" to be treated any way but shunned.

A key tenant of RP (especially MRP) is to be a leader, not a bully.

Your girl still seems to want to be with you despite her alleged insurmountable emotional walls.

Hint: they aren't insurmountable. If they were she would not contact you. This is just her way of dramatic phrasing to emphasize her feelings.

So you still have a chance to get her back. Not sure what your motivation for doing so is.

You are not OI.

You have oneitis for this girl.

You do not have abundance mentality.

how to I make her open up to me again

You need to apologize for being an asshole bully. If she's interested in coming back, fine.

Recognize where you fucked up. Let her know you are aware of it.

Then, be a better person.

Read sidebar. Work on MAP.

weakandsensitive · 2017-08-31T05:55:30+00:00

What do you think this place is? r/relationships for trolls? Get pegged. Tell your ex to send nudes.

Mattcwu · 2017-08-31T03:33:42+00:00

It sounds like you understand. It sounds like this girl gets her advice from a person with very bad qualities. This person is also her mother. Stefan Molyneux just did a video about this.

[deleted] · 2017-08-31T06:04:01+00:00

You're basically asking how to change her, which is impossible. You're in a needy place and can't detach yourself from your emotion, and you aren't even aware of where your emotions come from : insecurity and lack of confidence. How can you even imagine changing her when you just started changing yourself ? You have no frame, and no woman will open up to a guy who has no frame. Work on yourself, that's the best you can do.

She said she loves me and cant live without me, but that she doesn't know if she can tear down her walls (she built these walls due to my name calling, according to her). She says she doesnt know if she can open up to me again and risk me hurting her again.

While not exactly the same, it reminds me of this article.

Her mom had also told her to never have sex with a guy until x number of dates etc...

Then Keep going :

Lift
Read (the sidebar, because almost everything you need is in it)
STFU

GC0W30 · 2017-08-31T06:25:13+00:00

You probably can't recover this, and if you do it won't be as good as it was before and it will be too much work.

Pay attention to what Triadis3 wrote:

"She's gone.

You won't be able to change the image she has in her head of you, which is a spineless needy argumentative bitch. "

Follow MRP advice, get better frame, a better body, etc and you'll be able to replace her with hotter, more compliant and more fun.... and you'll be able to keep doing it for 3 or 4 decades.

Complecs · 2017-08-31T05:04:42+00:00

This is married red pill. You are not married. Why are you here? That really should tell you all you need to know.

Title	Girlfriend of 6 years moved out. Cries because shes not sure if shes able to open up to me again or not. What do I do?
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Date	August 31, 2017 3:17 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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