Part one of this two part series discussed how I treat my wife like I treat my dog and why. For those who have not read it, it can be found here.

Part two is substantially more theoretical and discusses: 1) TRP's/MRP's two similar but distinct hierarchies: Men -> women, children, dogs/puppies (I'm calling this the TRP hierarchy because it focuses mainly on spinning plates) and Men -> women -> children -> dogs/puppies (I'm calling this the MRP hierarchy because it incorporates a 1st-mate dynamic); 2) why these differing hierarchies are necessary; 3) shit-testing/comfort-testing within each model; and, 4) anything else I deem pertinent to the discussion.

Similarities and differences between the TRP and MRP hierarchical models

We here at TRP/MRP know that in order for any form of relationship to function between genders, men must take control of the relationship, lead, and own our shit. Men are the captains of their respective ships and at the end of the day all progress, successes, and failures fall squarely on the captain's shoulders whether he, himself, fucked up or not. Real men, men who take control of their lives and live a RP lifestyle, place themselves at the top of relationship hierarchies. How these hierarchies look as we move from top to bottom depend on what we, as men, want from the relationship. Are we spinning plates with many women who can be easily replaced? Are we in LTR's (potentially with other, less valuable women on the side) Are we married and leading a woman we have decided is of high value, adding value to both our lives? Are there children in the mix? Each new factor requires us to modify our approach and treatment of the women in our lives.

Men who favor the more plate based theory of TRP will naturally favor a M -> W,C,D model. TRP has a saying: "women are children" (or at least act like children, as was a comment on my previous post) and this hierarchical model represents that. Here, men will treat women as though they are children or dogs, because women, children, and dogs are viewed in the same way - they are not capable of making important decisions for themselves, they are overly emotional and prone to emotional outbursts, they lack an ability to use logic, etc. Individuals who remain under the influence of the blue pill believe these actions are misogynist yet fail to see just how effective treating women like dogs can be. We often see feminists outwardly denounce such treatment yet tow the line when Chad treats her like his favorite play toy. Women love being treated like this because it satisfies their need for feelz before reelz. None can doubt its effectiveness for spinning plates and keeping women interested, entertained, and sexually aroused.

Opposing the strictly plate based model of TRP is the LTR/Marriage (MPR) model. Proponents of LTR/marriage, while often ridiculed by those who strictly spin plates, favor the M -> W -> C -> D model. The main difference being a 1st-mate dynamic is weaved into the relationship. (on a side note, you can strictly adhere to spinning plates and still treat your plethora of women as 1st-mates within the confines of each specific relationship as you can also be a one women type of guy and not view your woman as a 1st-mate; constantly treating her like a child or dog) The 1st-mate dynamic positions a women somewhere between you, the head of the relationship, and a child/dog. The higher value the woman, the more she internally regulates and provides drama-free value to your life, the more respect she gets. The 1st-mate dynamic is a constant push-pull between adult and child as most women can bounce between respectable and mature to utterly juvenile from minute to minute.

Necessity

The average Joe is constantly trying to find clear-cut, black-letter formulas for living life to make success as easy as possible. We often see novice TRPers request quick and easy fixes for their problems with women, not realizing that TRP is a journey that requires knowledge and discipline (not to mention years of practice) to make work. Our relationships with women are fluid and require us to incorporate different models and theories into these relationships depending on our desired outcome. These two hierarchical models represent the opposite ends of a sliding scale that can be followed in their extremes or blended together to fit any situation. For instance, I am married but I tend to follow the TRP model because my wife responds better to being treated like a dog or a child as opposed to a 1st-mate. There are times she is completely logical and adult-like, and in those times she is offered more respect. However, the vast majority of the time our relationship functions better when I treat her like man's best friend. Quick fixes are just that - quick and usually ineffective long-term solutions to problems that require a vast tool-set usable in many situations. Don't put all your eggs in one basket. Having and understanding different models allows us to tailor our treatment of women to get the most out of the relationship, whether we spin plates or get married.

Testing

The difference between hierarchies, while seemingly minuscule, can completely change the dynamic of a relationship. This is where shit tests and comfort tests come into play. All women shit test. So we can expect to see considerable shit testing in both models. This is good because if she is shit testing you, she is digging you. She wouldn't shit test you if she wasn't attracted. The shit test is a way for her to ascertain if you have a higher SMV than her. We here at TRP are masters of passing shit tests, showing high SMV, and creating attraction. Shit testing is prevalent in both models, however, comfort testing is not, either because plate spinners experience fewer comfort tests from women or they purposely refuse to recognize comfort tests and therefore treat them like shit tests. For plate spinners this is fine because they can, and will, easily replace the plate if shit goes south.

For those of us in LTR's or marriages, comfort testing rears its ugly head; not because the women is testing your SMV, but because she is testing her SMV in your eyes. Women comfort test when they perceive the man's SMV is substantially higher than her own. We all know that men must have a higher SMV than their women but it can't be so much higher that she feels you are totally out of her league. She is testing you to see if you find her worthy. Failing a comfort test is not as serious as failing a shit test. Your perceived SMV does not necessarily decline when failing a comfort test as it does when failing a shit test. It is her perception of her SMV that declines when you fail a comfort test, which has the effect of her slightly withdrawing from the relationship. This is why plate spinners do not see or care about comfort tests. The man's SMV does not change regardless of passage or failure and plates can easily come and go, so worrying about comfort tests isn't worth the time or effort.

Conversely, LTRs and marriage require careful maintenance of relative SMVs. Our SMV must always remain higher than our woman's, but not so much higher that she withdraws from the relationship. The comfort test is a woman's way to give us the opportunity to raise or lower her SMV without lowering our own. Treating the comfort test as a shit test (and passing it) widens the gap between SMVs; it lowers hers without sacrificing yours. (you've essentially failed the comfort test but passed it as a shit test) Recognizing a comfort test (and passing it as a comfort test) narrows the gap between SMVs; it raises her's without sacrificing yours. Fail to many comfort tests and her SMV drops below yours so much that she begins to withdraw from the relationship.

So how does this work in practice when women are both comfort testing and shit testing? Recognizing and passing shit tests keeps your SMV higher than her's. Recognizing and passing comfort tests raises her SMV, which is pushing the boundary of being too low or she wouldn't be comfort testing, keeping it at an acceptably lower level than yours. All this can happen in minutes because women are prone to emotional state fluctuations.

Understanding the different models of relationship hierarchies and recognizing and understanding the difference between shit tests and comfort tests is valuable for all types of relationships. If you are spinning plates, recognizing and passing a comfort test can keep that plate spinning longer. If you are in a relationship, recognizing and passing a comfort test will effectively maintain SMV levels keeping yours acceptably higher than hers. Having all the proper tools to work with in any type of relationship enables us to effectively get what we want out of life.

Lift, Lead, DGAF

-Val