Hey everyone I just want to introduce myself and ask for any and all advice that I can get. I picked up "No More Mr. Nice Guy" about 2 months ago and it was like reading a biography of my life. I immediately started making some necessary changes in how I behave and think. I have since red both "Married Man Sex Life" and "Mindful Attraction Plan". While reading the MAP I came to a realization that for the entirety of my marriage I was the energy vampire in the relationship. This realization hit me really hard. I am now working out, p90x, and maintaining frame when confronted.

I do have some question. Since I am the reason that my wife is no longer attracted to me and I have made so many mistakes in our relationship, not having integrity, and she became so used to the me that behaved like a toddler, will she come around and should I put more effort into the MAP? Should I still look at her as the woman I love or just treat her like anyone else? Should I run my home, wife and 4 kids, like a business where there are expectations and defined consequences as well as rewards?

I am trying to do the right thing for me as well as my family and would like some insight. Thanks for all the other posts that have helped me swallow trp.