So I'm a 27 year old that's decided to wait until marriage. I don't have to explain beyond that. You get it.

Something that ALWAYS comes up in conversation if the topic of my waiting comes up is people that give the weak argument, "But don't you want to test out the ride before you buy it" or "What if you're into different things" or some variant of MUH-SEX-IS-VALUABLE

This presents two issues immediately:

  1. If your so emotionally stunted and immature that nothing else can hold your relationship together besides sexual activity you deserve to be lonely and alone until you get over yourself. You aren't helping anyone by getting in a relationship with them, you're hurting them because you're baggage that adds no value to the relationship. Seriously, get over yourself.

  2. Sex is a small, albeit important, aspect of marriage (Yes, I'll state marriage. Because unless you're married it is my strong belief that you shouldn't take part in sex anyway. The reasons go beyond biblical grounds into statistics on longevity of marriages, trust of the relationship, satisfaction as sexual partners, etc.) and your relationship shouldn't hinge on it, namely because that's selfish. Sex is to be USED as a tool to enhance your relationship and show love to your partner, not to be the chief end of satisfaction for you.

Another thing that comes up as some type of pseudo-argument that belays the other parties lack of discipline is something along the lines of, "I couldn't go 27 days without sex, let alone 27 years!" Look I get it (Or conceptually I do hah) sex is nice, it feels nice, yada yada; (strong) However, if you can't afford yourself even the slightest bit of self-worth to say you can wait... I don't know how to end that sentence beyond saying you're pathetic for not being able to own your decisions.

It seems that's where all this stems from: responsibility

How about this one, "What if the two of you aren't sexually compatible" and what they're referencing is I suppose what if our "kinks" don't match up or one is more sexually adventurous than the other, etc. But again, this goes back to have the right mindset around sex. The person I get married to is inevitably going to have been vetted enough to know that they are either a) willing to try new things (in the event that I'm the more adventurous, I yield that I don't know given my lack of experience) or b) that's it. Remember, sex isn't about you. Regardless of societies loud mouth piece that is feminism, individualism, hedonism, sexual revolution, WHATEVER; The reality is that sex is not about you, it's about your partner and serving them.

But, but what if my partner doesn't serve me!

I get that too, but again, let's address that if the two parties of consenting adults are genuine, caring people that are emotionally mature and open to dialogue somewhere along the line the conversation will and can come up about how one party doesn't feel "served" enough in their role. So much of the problems that come up are centered around a) Can the parties be mature enough to have communication and b) Can the parties be responsible enough to own their choices and decisions.

Those two points span beyond sexual relations into what I believe to be the two main issues in our wonderfully fucked up society, with the greater being that of LACK OF RESPONSIBILITY.

Why are numales such faggots - they aren't being held responsible for cultivating masculinity Why are women such banshees - they aren't being held responsible for cultivating their feminine mystique Why are jobs going down the shitter - because blacks make up 37% of the unemployed rate because their culture is notorious for suckling off the teet of the Welfare State (I just wanted to throw that false but accurate statement in) Why is multiculturalism bad - because nationals need to take responsibility for their lands (no logical follow there, just another statement) Why are you so fat and weak - because you aren't being responsible with getting fit on and on and on and on it goes

So, quit being irresponsible, stop having sex unless your married, if you are married have sex that serves the other person, and fuck off.