The tingle rules all.

I was speaking with a girl about the latest guy she was interested in, and asked her how it was going.

She said it wasn't happening and I asked her to explain why.

She said that when she kissed him she just didn't feel anything.

So this poor sap's entire future prospects with her and all the game he was spitting and all the work he had done on himself and all his accomplishments and the sum total of his worth to her all culminated in one moment; the kiss.

It was a pass-or-fail moment with no going back, no do-overs, no second chances. She was on to the next prospect without giving him a second thought.

I'm not being judgmental here. Women are the way they are. But for me, this really underscores how differently men and women think. Or not think, as the case may be.

Attraction is not a choice. Attraction can not be negotiated. We either produce tingles for her in that moment, or we don't.