A little advice is needed

TheReason13 · 2014-09-02T20:47:04+00:00

You - "I've always been fairly alpha"

U96Q69 - "BUT YOU ARE NOT ALPHA!"

Lol. Nevermind what U9 says, we totally understand what you meant.

Anyway, I want to commend you for sticking to your guns and enforcing your borders when dealing with your girl's primary hypergamous need to control you. She does not like your independence from her, she will forever be compelled to control her source of protection, provision and attention (you).

She will achieve this with little victories over time, when she is satisfied that she has sufficient control over you her secondary hypergamous instinct will take over. Looking out for greener pastures. Its the blueprint on how and why most women cheat. This is instinctive so don't blame her for it.

Besides that, the shit tests never stop, you can only hope that they become less frequent. Its actually a good thing depending how you look at it, because it when the shit tests stop indefinitely that you have to be concerned. Keep her on her toes. Remember, the less control she has over you, the more power you have over her.

sir_wankalot_here · 2014-09-02T21:28:52+00:00

Seems like things are working fine. She gets angry, you don't and you go out when you feel like it.

What I wanna know is how do I bury this shit for good.

You become single :-) Women always find some shit to complain about. Usually when the wife complains about something, first I determine does she have a legitimate point. I will debate with her until she reaches the anger state, that way she has a chance to prove her point.

For the anger stage, I just tell her this discussion is over an go to another room. Initally there would be the "you don't care BS", if she persisted in being annoying I would tell her I am going out end of duscussion.

Modern__Day__Pricus · 2014-09-02T23:04:50+00:00

For good?

Never.

Kobe Bryant more than likely gets "Shit Tested" and he is one of the Greatest to ever touch a Basketball.

It never ends.

What you are doing now is perfect as it is. But, to help more, just add in some humor to the point you don't take it as serious and even cute on her part.

Just smile and nod your head. Play that Romantic BS they love to see on the TV, Movies, and Books. Tell her everything will be alright before a quick pop on the butt. Not to the point she feels like a child. Some like it but, you never know. Have a balance about it to the point its so convert you may start to even believe what you are saying.

Bottom line is never ends. Even Patrice O'neal says this as well. The game of women shit testing may never be stopped.

http://associationofchronos.com/2014/08/23/ill-always-be-there/

mordanus · 2014-09-02T23:50:08+00:00

Women shit test. If you are with a woman, you are going to get shit tested. I have gotten to the point where my wife will shit test me and realize what she has done and apologize to me for it. The shit test is a seed of doubt that you know what you are doing as a leader of the home/family/relationship. When you go out with your friends it makes her think that you would rather spend time with them than with her and it makes he think that the relationship is unimportant to you. In her eyes this makes you a bad leader. So somehow you should make her see that you spending time with your friends isn't a competition for attention between your friends and her. That will quiet the hamster a little bit.

TDCRedPill · 2014-09-03T04:07:19+00:00

If that's the biggest complaint you have, and you continue to handle it as described, there's no problem. She's gonna test you. Your job is not to fail until you don't care about how she reacts. 'She' will be any woman in your life. Lather, Rinse, Repeat.

Misteralcala · 2014-09-03T05:55:23+00:00

As a married man I can tell you these shit tests are her way of asserting dominance over you. Once you comply to her wishes in an attempt to placate her, you lower yourself in her eyes and she will make a play for more control.

Just hold the course. If you want to go out with your buds, then DO it. Don't ask permission, just state that you are going, kiss her or smack her ass and tell her you'll be back later. Don't let her blow up your phone or argue through text, and maintain frame and don't participate in any arguments it causes.

You're doing good. Eventually, she will see that her shit tests are getting nowhere and your friend time isn't a threat to her and she will drop it.

Hold the course, Captain.

U96Q69 · 2014-09-02T20:13:23+00:00

I've always been fairly alpha. ... My girl always says she's....

You aren't a alpha, you need more girls.

Title	A little advice is needed
Author	Jennings76
Upvotes	4
Comments	16
Date	September 2, 2014 7:12 PM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/TheRedPill
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