So my smart wife after a 3 week break, told me that she tried to break her bad habits like oversleeping and show attention but that just doesn't do. I am really pissed off, mostly at me since recently I finally understood that I was wrong on expecting my wife to understand my feelings. While I was doing it I ended up on her frame, I went beta, and I stopped caring for myself and all I ever did was trying to make her feel comfortable. I am grateful for those 3 weeks because I decided to start caring and invest in myself and only me (6 years of screwing myself), and I think she got some hints, anyways I am only thinking on how to improve and trying to get her know that I wont give a shit anymore with or without her. So the other day I went to get her from work (36km) along with some other of her co-workers. And as I was driving us home I sometime speeded up above the speed limit and after I dropped all of her co-workers she suddenly got a breathing panic and opened the window for fresh air and then started crying and said: you know that (one of the co worker) has a speed trauma, how irresponsible are you I told you to speed down and shit like this. I didnt react and didnt even talked about it because man bull shit. My older self would start thinking of ways of to apologise and make her feel better just to get over that bitchy situation. What was really pissing me off is that she told me few days ago that she doesn't know how to approach to people and pay attention, suddenly she became fuckin sensitive and caring. Just to clarify she had that time that she even wouldn't say bye to my parents when she left for work (bad habit), but she initiated a friendly hug to her male co worker in front of me, she does that every time. I might have messed up the way I explained all this, I hope I got my message through to you guys and get maybe get a thought on this. Thanks