Background: been redpill for a couple years now, marriage is turned around, attraction is up more, sex is 2-3 times a week, could be more enthusiastic but its progress, and she is generally a sweet, wifely, submissive woman with me otherwise. No fights/arguments in our relationship in a long time.

Scenario: I'm not handing out "I Love You" as much lately. Wife is noticing. Usually after doing something that I like, or having hot sex, or when I feel like it - I'll throw it out there.....but I want them to mean something, or to reinforce good behaviors.

Every once in a while my wife will say I love you - like "I know I'm not doing xyz for you right now but....I love you!" and I don't reply with I Love you too. Usually I will say "I know", or "I'm sure you do". Usually this is not a problem, but her hamster brain goes overtime a little.

Today I mentioned that I wanted a back rub this morning and she said "I just woke up and I need to have my coffee, then I can rub your back, but I love you!" and I didn't say anything.... this time she got a little upset and said "tell me you love me", and I said "I don't want to tell you I love you when you ask me to - that's creepy and it wouldn't mean anything", then she proceeds to tell me that she doesn't understand why I can't tell her I love her and that girls like it when guys tell them that and it makes them tingly and feel lovey, etc.

So, I just thought I'd post this and hear what other guys thoughts are, what you guys have done in this scenario, or hear any examples of this from other guys. Thanks.