I've posted a few times, first in desperation, second when I had started to figure things out and now where I feel like Neo himself! Previous post here which links to first https://www.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/3k8063/i_dont_look_at_you_the_same_way/, I suffered anxiety and depression, became too needy and my wife (not actually married) decided she wasn't putting up with it any more.

Obviously I'm a noob to this in the grand scheme of things but when you're putting RP to the test and you see it playing out exactly how everyone said it would and the hamster spinning before your eyes really makes you realise that YOU are in control of your life and pretty much what happens in it.

Any way, I read through the sidebars, NMMNG (hit home) etc and kept my eye on the subs. I'm feeling great, no panic attacks in ages and I've noticed everything changing around me.

She came back, after she had stayed a couple nights i made it clear what i expected from her going forward and that anything like this again will not happen. Things now are going pretty awesome although it's only been a week so my guard is still up, I need to carry on the RP ways but a big part of what brought her round I think was getting to level 8 dread, the defining moment was a mutual female friend saying how good and big I was looking. That coupled with her constantly asking what i was doing on my phone, obviously she knows I have options, it got to the point where she was clear that idgaf if she was back or not and I was begining to get the ball rolling on just ending it properly for good.

Clearly I'll carry on learning RP but do I dial back the dread? What level is appropriate for me now?