ELI5: What does maintaining frame mean?

jamieoneal82 · 2014-09-21T17:47:30+00:00

Your frame is your principles, beliefs, expectations of others, intentions, values, etc. Maintaining frame is not letting others impose their frame on you. You stick to your guns, so to speak. You don't give in to peer pressure trying to get you to go against your frame. You hold people to a strict set of boundaries, keep people accountable. You don't let outside influences affect your self-image or emotional state.

BPers will "go with the flow". They'll agree to statements for the sake of fitting in or not wanting to make waves. They invest their self-image in the opinions of others. The RP frame is the opposite of this.

For example, someone mentions a band you don't like or never heard of. The BP frame is to pretend you like them or have heard of them hoping to be "cool". An RP frame would be to admit you don't like them or haven't heard of them, and own it like you don't care if people think less of you for it. If people give you shit for it, you brush it of like it doesn't phase you. People will ultimately respect you for not being afraid to own who you really are and not giving a fuck what they think.

2014-09-21T17:15:21+00:00

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H42 · 2014-09-21T17:12:16+00:00

Your frame is your attitude that you hold and project.

The alpha attitude is unflappable, nothing torques your head bolts.

You never "loose it", you never whine or complain.

Your frame is commanding, like Kirk, or Picard.

You are the captain of your destiny, and you know it. So act accordingly.

tombreck2 · 2014-09-21T17:32:53+00:00

Being in control of the meaning of an interaction

Asoka11111 · 2014-09-21T17:10:55+00:00

The most concise definition of holding frame is maintaining restraint over one's emotions. Be the rock that she can rely on.

Career-Criminal · 2014-09-21T20:27:52+00:00

Frame is what makes your chain difficult to pull.

2014-09-21T20:39:49+00:00

Watch the show Hell On Wheels and pay attention to the main character. He is my prime example of holding frame no matter what.

2014-09-21T23:30:51+00:00

I read this on here some time ago:

Imagine an object floating through space. Now imagine other objects bouncing off of this object, and its trajectory doesn't change at all.

That object is you.

Mizerableman · 2014-09-21T23:35:45+00:00

Frame is a poor word used to define the character of a person.

A girl asks you to do something because she is a girl and you say no. She then says "Pweeeeze" and does a cutey cutey smile and you refuse again or just ignore her but same difference. This is holding frame.

A better term for it would probably be "sticking to your guns" but no one asked me.

BluepillProfessor · 2014-09-22T02:19:06+00:00

If you have not figured out your frame then you have barely even begun your red pill journey.

Your Frame is YOU at your best, the very top of your game. Think of the best you that there is or you can reasonably expect to be.

For every man his frame should include being stoic, calm under pressure, masculine, rational, reactive and consistent. In order to be an "Alpha Frame" you need to add that you are a person with game who is confident and attractive with women. The rest of it is up to you. My frame includes some 'hotheadedness' so when the occasion calls for some irate screaming I am there. Your frame may include some shyness or reserve, or maybe you are a bit of an asshole. What is the "best" you? Write it out in less than a page. How do you react (ideally) to problems? Why are you confident?

Frame maintenance usually comes up in the context of Shit Tests. You maintain your frame in the face of a shit test by maintaining your strong, stoic, rational, masculine attitude and feelings and behaviors and by NOT getting caught into an irrational, emotional maelstrom.

Title	ELI5: What does maintaining frame mean?
Author	RedPillProphet
Upvotes	6
Comments	12
Date	September 21, 2014 4:56 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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