New guy to TRP, at an emotional crossroads now, how do I proceed?

AlfredApple · 2017-04-20T00:12:40+00:00

You can call it one-itis

Yes.

i look at this situation like,"if i cant keep this amazing 10/10 person as a friend at least, i've failed at improving my life"

The thing is, you can't keep her in your life as a friend as you are sexually attracted to her and we both know that is not going away anytime soon. Even if you commit to going back to just friends we both know that deep down you want her naked on her back.

You know that option a) is the right choice but it's the harder choice which is why you came here to see if someone can tell you option b) is the way to go.

Please go with a) in a few years you will laugh about b) and realise she was never a 10 to begin with.

[deleted] · 2017-04-20T09:20:06+00:00

"i wanted to be friends again with her, because I don't like the idea of cutting off contact with such an amazing person, regardless of my romantic interest"

No, you are thirsty and want in her pants. Stop deluding/gaslighting yourself. She will know that you are being creepy and relegate you do perma-orbiter.

I also thought, maybe I should start going to Church, and start listening to the same, loving/happy music she does. I listen to rap music and don't dress the way she wanted me to.

Stop being retarded and get out of her frame moron.

a) Deep down I know that i should focus on my career, and that i should not use her for validation, don't talk to her, at all, and keep it moving. im moving in a few months for a career to meet new people, new beginnings, reinventing myself and lighting my inner fire again.

Yes, go fuck ten of those new women you meet.

b) her worth is more than that and i should swallow my pride, and try being friends with her again.

This is classic pedestalization and you are about to ruin you weak and pathetic frame because you are thirsty for your oneitis. She is not as amazing as you think and this feeling will pass. Go fuck ten other women.

she had even mentioned that we can possibly start dating after being friends, so I could rekindle our friendship

Who are you trying to mislead? The first part she said, because you are now an orbiter, but the second part is all you, because you are acting like a thirsty loser beta with ulterior motives for this "friendship". This is why you dont make friends with women.

she is an amazing person that i wanted in my life

No, she is a dumb ape like you or me that pees and poos. You want you dick in her regular, non-amazing vagina.

You. Thirsty. Moron.

she brought me so much joy

No, only you can make yourself happy, you have her on a pedestal

made me a better person

No, only you can help yourself, and maybe jeebus. Remember, God only helps those who helps themselves.

made me feel better

Because you had you dick inside her

and it would make me happy and not depressed about my situation if we could just hang out.

Because you think it will get you a shot at her pants, which it probably wont and you are better off getting into the pants of women who will actually fuck you.

What do I do here?

Fuck ten other women

You can call it one-itis

Yes

A classic, model case

but I have this history of cutting off contact and going my own way my entire life, so i have a few close friends.

Past Performance Is Not Indicative Of Future Results , Sunk Cost Fallacy, etc

Also, were you fucking these friends?

i look at this situation like,"if i cant keep this amazing 10/10 person as a friend at least, i've failed at improving my life"

You're right, maybe you should go kill yourself. OR FUCK TEN OTHER WOMEN

Title	New guy to TRP, at an emotional crossroads now, how do I proceed?
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Date	April 19, 2017 11:57 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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