Is it unreasonable to expect the girl you've been seeing for a couple months isn't going on other dates?

AFPJ · 2017-03-17T15:47:51+00:00

I should be dating multiple girls too, but it's not quite that easy for a guy like me.

Well then you best act like it. Your lack of abundance is no excuse to try locking down hers, nor would it go over well.

If you want to "keep" chicks like these, don't try to lock them down - it'll never happen, and you'll have wasted a lot of time on just one person. Work hard on improving yourself, you'll notice EVERY person who used to be 'meh' about you will start wanting to hang out with you - and the people who wouldn't even give you the time of day will be receptive.

quicklogaccount · 2017-03-17T17:11:54+00:00

Is it unreasonable to expect the girl you've been seeing for a couple months isn't going on other dates?

Yep.

Would I look like a bitch for bringing it up?

Not really. You would be surprised about how many girls can't say "no" to the question "will you be my girlfriend?". But it has to be that one, just asking for exclusivity is awkward.

The best strategy is let her bring up the talk and handle it as you like. This doesn't guarantee her investment but it's the best you can get.
There's something else to this. Some women never take chances because they never accept losses, so they never bring up the talk. Even if they're serial monogamists or used to be, they'll cold down and end things with you or start dating some other guy that gives her stability. These are women that don't ever make a concession nor submit, "you asked, you knew me". Shitty, shitty partners.

Anyway, if you're in a place of abundance and doesn't forfeit the leadership nor takes shit from her, you could probably start the talk yourself and be ok. Only after you had sex, unless you're a teen. It's not your case though.

I know a lot of you will say I should be dating multiple girls too, but it's not quite that easy for a guy like me.

Ok.
Abundance is non negotiable. You can't ever think of a relationship without it.
If the girl is on abundance, you'll face hard times. She won't even be do it on purpose, objectively to screw you, she'll just act as a woman and this will screw you hard. Only very experienced and intelligent women, some really valuable girls, can work around it. But these chicks take no interest in men on scarcity and even if they did, they wouldn't let him know they're dating other guys. Not your case.
IF the girl is on scarcity herself and doesn't end up screwing you like every other woman (by developing abundance by your side and under your nose), it still won't be good for you. It'll just be lots of angst for both.

Kommanderdude · 2017-03-17T18:04:58+00:00

I leave it up to the girl to ask. And if I want to be locked down in an ltr then I will. If I don't I just tell them that's not what I'm about.

gemmagems · 2017-03-17T15:22:30+00:00

I really hope you stop seeing her, I feel bad for her. Little does she know what she has gotten herself into.

Title	Is it unreasonable to expect the girl you've been seeing for a couple months isn't going on other dates?
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Date	March 17, 2017 3:18 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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