People describe me as "calm, quiet, shy but confident" How do I stop being shy and quiet? Is it a negative trait?

Flamethrowa21 · 2019-02-20T16:25:08+00:00

If you're calm and confident you have frame.

Bedtimeshine · 2019-02-20T16:58:17+00:00

The only difference between “shy and quiet” and “strong and silent” is your physical presence. Lift.

XXXMersenne · 2019-02-20T16:46:29+00:00

Start being outgoing and loud.

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SimplyFishOil · 2019-02-20T17:04:30+00:00

Baby steps. You want to stop being shy and quiet? Then start talking to people. But do it little by little. Perhaps talk to your family or friends more, then co workers, then strangers.

rugged79 · 2019-02-20T20:10:16+00:00

3 out of 4.

The shy part you have to work on. If you work on being the "fun" guy on occasion or contributing to a conversation, you change "shy" to "doesn't say a lot but when he does say something, it's profound/awesome". Or the "undercover once in a blue moon he goes in Hangover III style guy".

For natural quiet or introverted types that have learned the proper skillset, charisma is like a light switch. You turn it on in social situations, then turn it off when you go home and watch Netflix.

As for being calm and quiet? The toughest, coolest and get-the-most-women guys are usually the quiet ones. Why would they make themselves a target by telling someone how rich or how successful they are? But if you do enough interesting shit in life, when you do speak, people listen.

resnine · 2019-02-21T15:50:13+00:00

This is what I call the REAL pill. Yes shy and quite are negative traits. Calm and stoic are positive traits. Know the difference and balance them.

Title	People describe me as "calm, quiet, shy but confident" How do I stop being shy and quiet? Is it a negative trait?
Author	sarhiliroad
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Date	February 20, 2019 4:09 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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