I won't keep spinning a plate even unless they might be ltr material, and if they are then I'll become their bf and drop all my other plates, but till then I just keep vetting plates for a ltr. I just find more joy in being in a ltr instead of just having sex without any intimacy.

Recently just had a plate break after the whole "So, what are we?" talk. I eventually told her we weren't exclusive and failed to communicate that I don't do exclusivity since it just feels one foot in and one foot out and I want commitment, but too early to ask or give that to her as I only known her almost a month, and still vetting my other plates. But yeah, plate pretty much broke because I said no to being exclusive. How should I say it next time to another plate that I don't do exclusivity while single but I'm still interested in monogamous ltr if they're worthy?