Ltrs guy friend just got out of jail.....

FereallyRed · 2019-04-05T08:36:41+00:00

A guy that's been inside for a two piece is going to be drooling for pussy. And women will pick up on that. In prison, if you're not already aware of the world and your need to take what you want, you learn really damn fast.

So you have a "bad boy" alpha personality that will be actively trying to fuck anything with a cunt and a heartbeat.

Not good. Plus, are you telling me you and your LTR don't live in the same city? That it's a long distance relationship? {LDR}

So, it sucks. It sucks because

1 - your LTR saw you mateguard, and that shit is betamax behavior. You lose man card points.

2 - you are focused on what she does, so you're living in her frame. She should be sitting home wondering if you're fucking other women on your trip, not the other way around. She has no dread of you straying, otherwise she'd be on her best behavior. THis tells me you are more invested in the relationship than she is.

3 - She is changing her story, AKA "trickle truthing". This means she's testing your frame, giving gradually stronger pokes to see what affects you. Not a good sign.

4 - You don't "trust but verify" in this case. It's blatant. Even if she doesn't fuck him, she is not even considering you. Not because of your shitty and stupid demands, but because she should realize that the behavior she's doing is just plain unacceptable to someone in a committed relationship. She doesn't care about you as much as you care about her. That's why she wear the pants.

5 - You don't "show that if she does this... I'm dropping her". Weak feminine behavior. Men don't tell, they act. She does this, and you find it unacceptable, you don't have a long engagaing discussion about feelings. You simply walk away. No explanation, no mansplaining, no engagement, no closure. She is not doing things congruent with what you require you woman to do, so the only answer is to try a new woman.

6 - You should take a peek at yourself. If she feels entitled to do this, then you are somehow allowing it. Take that information about why she thinks she is in control and fix your shit, otherwise the next girl will repeat the cycle. You sound like a blowhard pushover.

_new-dawn0x2 · 2019-04-05T06:22:32+00:00

Fuck these hoes man you can't trust em. Detatch and don't do relationships ever again. Easier said than done I know...

[deleted] · 2019-04-05T13:58:51+00:00

Then she said maybe it'll just be the guy.

And that she wouldn't hang out with him one on one

It should have been established early on that she doesn't think hanging out with a guy one-on-one is something she finds acceptable when she's in a relationship, but that horse has left the barn.

It should have been established early on that you don't date girls who hang out with other guys one-on-one, but that ship has sailed.

It should have been established early on that you don't date girls who lie to you (see above portion of her shit I quoted), but that train has already left the station.

Your relationship problem didn't originate in the past week. Your problem originated six months ago when you started seeing her. You're only seeing the results of that problem now.

However, the source of your relationship problem is that you're a pussy, and you're going to have to fix the whole being a pussy thing before you'll ever make a relationship work. I don't mean that to insult you, but it is what it is. You're saying some really vaginal shit in the comments:

I'd care because maybe one of her previous bfs would've been OK with something like this so she thinks it's OK.

I have trouble knowing my boundaries

If I draw the line because she's hanging out with a guy friend, it will feel mentally different

And so on.

But there's good news. You can stop being a pussy. There's a whole goddamn sidebar over there to help you out, and it starts with you reading NMMNG and WISNIFG to get some of that bitch out of your vagina.

Good luck broseph.

Rkingpin · 2019-04-05T06:25:20+00:00

Looks like some guys still dont vet

RedLegendx · 2019-04-05T06:21:33+00:00

Dread by soft nexting.

Look, if she’s gonna cheat she’s gonna cheat, there’s no stopping this.

She’s being really shady changing her story of who’s gonna be staying where and how many people. I’d straight up tell her that I’m not comfortable with what she’s gonna do and soft next after that, in the time being if she does follow through you gotta think if you want to continue a committed relationship with this girl, think about it, if you tell her something makes you uncomfortable and she still follows through do you really want to be in a monogamous relationship with that?

RedAgeist · 2019-04-05T08:24:38+00:00

Go fuck a whore wherever you're. That way, wether she cheats or not, you win.

Idk, stupid advice, do what's best for you. Dont enter her frame, you are the prize. Own that shit. Dont text her again until you get home.

jay_jay_man · 2019-04-05T09:34:32+00:00

What did he get locked up for?

Pete_Worst · 2019-04-05T11:39:40+00:00

You should be on vacation meeting new girls and flirting/having fun, not talking to your gf and letting her suck you into her drama. It's funny how the exact week you're away is when this guy gets out of jail and decides to visit your city. You should've been silent during your trip and explored the local women (not saying have sex, but at least flirt your ass off).

nabosch · 2019-04-05T14:24:41+00:00

"I don't date women who associate themselves with degenerate criminals"

The ball is in her court, act accordingly to what she does.

The_Red_Trooper · 2019-04-05T17:03:02+00:00

If your girlfriend hangs out with another man who isn't a family member demote to plate! You will demote her to a plate without telling her this . Fuck someone else . She is now a plate but you will never tell her this. I have enough experience with woman that i learned if a women sees you as an alpha she will not hang around other guys ! She will fuck this guy. I seen it happen over and over again. He is the guy she tells you not to worry about but will end up fucking.

You should download tinder and fuck someone tonight! Spin more plates. Your ltr is officially over.

frick-a-frack · 2019-04-05T19:36:09+00:00

“A bunch of friends are coming down” to celebrate the jail bird’s release?

Then it’ll just be “jail bird and ‘some girl.’”

Then it’ll just be “jail bird.”

Her story sounds too planned. It’ll always be just the two of them. Fucking.

[deleted] · 2019-04-05T17:17:03+00:00

Ghost this criminally insane whore

hiddenpleasures123 · 2019-04-05T07:08:10+00:00

Tell her "I was trippin. I trust you." And then don't text/talk to her until you get back.

Title	Ltrs guy friend just got out of jail.....
Author	Usernamegoeswhere234
Upvotes	2
Comments	42
Date	April 5, 2019 6:15 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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