Some of the Redpill concepts will be easy to grasp, others will be extremely difficult and at times seem impossible. One of the things I've struggled with is the lie of "the one that got away" or Oneitis for a girl I'm no longer fucking.

If there has ever been a BP feedback loop from hell in my life, Oneitis is it, as it can cripple your production, success with women, and leave you going day to day without coming even close to your full potential.

The following are reminders and notes from [www.solvemygirlproblems.com] that have helped me through the last two years. I hope this helps those with Oneitis and any others ideas/quotes that you can add that helped you rid yourself of this BP fascination of "the one".

Desperate behavior both during a relationship and post-break up causes us to ego-invest ourselves into our girlfriends. Our minds place high value on that which we CHASE after.

Following this train of thought we can assume that sluts won’t cure Oneitis. You need a girl who challenges your game, who makes it hard for you. If you spend your time chasing washed up tail with vaginas the size of the Grand Canyon, you’re never going to get over your Oneitis.

Guys who have other passions besides their girlfriends are naturally more immune to Oneitis because they are ego-invested into other things in life besides a single over-rated vagina.

Guys who have no game are naturally more susceptible to Oneitis because they engage in super desperate behavior to save the one vagina they have access to; propagating their own Oneitises post-break up.

She will love me unconditionally if I love her unconditionally– It’s more likely that she will love you unconditionally if you DON’T love her unconditionally. When you tell a girl “I still love you” after she’s cheated on you, she thinks to herself “wow if he let me get away with that, he must have no other options.” It’s a subconscious thought process that immediately destroys a significant amount of attraction. A girl will love you more if she needs to work to get your affection and loyalty than if you advertise it in front of her

“She’s the only girl that could ever make me happy” – In all honesty, a floating vagina that followed you around would make you much happier than your current girlfriend.

During the relationship if we acted needy or desperate, our mind assumes we must really need her. If we forgive her for cheating and low interest, our mind rationalizes that she must be worth our own self-dignity.

You are light years ahead of most guys out there because you are self-aware of your Oneitis; be proud of yourself for that. Most guys labor endlessly towards their feminized ideals of love and beauty because they have ego-invested themselves too deeply into the matrix. Read the stuff I wrote on break-ups and Oneitis, should help. Busting into a girl hotter than your ex will also help.