Though I'm currently an incel, i found that this little thought helped me a lot with my ego. I've been on the trp path for 7 months now, gained 30 lbs at the gym (170 to 200 6'3") and working on my social skills more than anything. I'm a highly facetious individual in which has caused troubles in the past due to high iq issues(doesn't do well by people in which are politically correct). Like Albert Camus said, when confronted with the absurd reality for which we exist, one must either further wrap yourself in the absurdity or separate yourself from it to observe it, removing you from it.

Now what I basically found is that due to the dynamic nature of our existence, to have any solid fundamental analysis of yourself during a time of change is inherently flawed. In order to grow and start feeling good, you cannot hold any cemented ideas of yourself. In fact, I would say all together fuck the past. When you come across a social situation or thing you found undesirable, it's your ego which is preventing you from being open minded and allowing change to take place. To entirely remove ones ego is (theoretically) impossible. Ego is a resistance to change of the self.

When I sit and think about myself and how far I have come- I don't consider any facets of how things were; but rather the immediate changes I have made, and consider my worth from the perspective of an average observer which knows nothing about me- and from this perspective (rather than the low self esteem image I was stuck in in my head) I can more objectively gauge my self worth and presence. Due to the lifting women have been smiling at me- which definitely helps massively, but can't be distinguished from general politeness.

Anyways, the point being is that we constantly get caught in past ego loops. Do not let your ego hold you back. Allow yourself to be judged every day independently from the last and allow critical analysis and thinking of the self at least once a day.