How do I change my values?

rabmcm32 · 2020-09-10T23:15:14+00:00

The moral side of life is important. These questions are important . TRP is just a summation of women’s behaviour and to be used in context of the big picture . Some women are more moral than others - so seek them out as long as you don’t fall into the NAWALT trap.

2020-09-11T00:27:01+00:00

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Important_Mud_9909 · 2020-09-11T01:58:21+00:00

Hahaha. Can't believe this. You're exactly like i was.

Ask yourself : These values help you in any way ?

For me they didn't. Trying to change hoes into housewives wasn't going to work. Fell in love with a slut once. Since 14 she was on every dick she would see. Heard the same "yOu wIlL fInD sOmeOne" until the redpill. Thing is : the person that agrees with our values and "ticks" our criteria-boxes don't exist.

A female might try to manipulate you into thinking she is that. But NONE are. We expect too much from them BECAUSE of our values, and YES that is harmful for your life, it keeps you from experiencing life a little bit more. A little bit better, even.

I was the kind of guy that would feel like trash for hurting a bitch's feelings, or like, cumming in their face lol All because of those values. Women don't care for them, They'll always do what their impulsive hypergamous nature dictates.

victorysflame · 2020-09-11T03:52:46+00:00

What happens to women after they've had casual sex that makes them loose value in your eyes?

I'm a woman and I've had protected, consensual, casual sex before. Surprisingly my bodily and mental health were the same. It didn't stop me from enjoying anything in life, my skills and hobbies remained the same. I don't feel like what makes me valuable and interesting to be around were lost trough theses encounters.

I know men can feel insecure about a woman's past. But reassure yourselves that I have never compared my long term relationship with past encounters. Also past encounters never make me feel curious about other men while I am in a monogamous relationship and I've never felt like cheating.

Actually having some casual encounters with other men in my past makes it much more easier to completely focus on my husband. I don't have this anxiety that I might be missing onto something, or that I haven't fully explored my options yet. But because I have, I know for a fact that my boyfriend is good for me and can satisfy my needs.

W_O_M_B_A_T · 2020-09-11T06:05:12+00:00

We want to be valued by a girl we value.

Because you don't want to value yourself instead. You think you need a mother figure to do it for you, as if that could possibly be any substitute for self-love.

I guess this is we want the most.

Iron Rule of Thomassi #6.

I grew up religious. I'm atheist now but my values about relationships are conservative

Your values aren't those of any given club or any presumed group of people at all. They belong to you alone, in all the universe. Nobody else owns your values or cares about them. Stop attempting to qualify and classify yourself by telling yourself "at least I belong to given club XYZ...."

because they make sense for guys and I'm a guy.

You don't sound completely sure of that, or you wouldn't have mentioned it.

I can't value a girl if she had casual sex.

Great!

I'll take her off your hands, brother. Not sure what you're going to be doing while off I'm wining and fucking Stacy and Jen. Masturbating sadly, maybe. Oh well, You're welcome.

This kind of thing makes you sound like you're afraid of the pussy. You wouldn't be the first man to be afraid of the pussy. Just if you are, recognize that and admit to yourself. Don't make it about women or other men.

The fact that no other dicks have been in there doesn't make yours special or magical. It doesn't make it safe. You make you safe.

Even if I valued a girl, she becomes a stranger for me if I learn she had casual sex. Happened once.

You went full-autistic. Never go full-autistic.

Reject her before she learns your dirty secrets and rejects you, is it something along that line?. I think you're just trying to beat her to the punch because you're afraid of rejection and Inadequacy. Nuke her from orbit before you become vulnerable.

Fear of inadequacy is almost always due to overbearing, insecure parents and develops around age 5-8.

It has nothing to do with a religious upbringing. It has nothing to do with "conservative"(whatever the hell that means) values, not directly at least.

I don't wish to fight reality (AWALT).

Yes you do. Who doesn't?

Denial isn't just some river in Africa.

So I need to drop my values.

This isn't your values we're talking about at all. It's Fear and Dread.

I'll give a solid example on why this question matters. There's a super attractive girl sitting on the table next to me. I want her sexually but emotionally I don't have the patience to seduce her

Stop being a scared little bitch. Stop imventing nonsense reasons why you're just not going to approach her. Nobody cares about your conservative values. Accept your fear, recognize it, and move through it instead.

and pass her shit tests. I know she had casual sex so she does not deserve my time and attention and mental energy.

You've got this reversed. You're afraid you're not worth her precious attention.

My values make me see women like that.

I don't want to get all Freudian on you, but you're talking about how you see your own trashy hypocritical mother, here. This isn't a value, it's probably a reasonable observation of your mother's own behavior.

It's unfortunate that almost any other women around still remind you of the dread, resentment, fear you still feel towards your self-righteous mother.

IXseed · 2020-09-11T08:37:23+00:00

Why do you think women who have casual sex are not to be valued?

AlpacaStrap · 2020-09-11T20:38:04+00:00

What the fuck?

Don’t change your values.

Title	How do I change my values?
Author	AsleepArachnid
Upvotes	1
Comments	14
Date	September 10, 2020 10:03 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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