How can I get less attached?

2020-09-04T01:30:20+00:00

You have to do some self-reflection.

Soooo many guys don't do this.

Every-time you think "Lovey dovey" feelings about her remember, and repeat this mantra..

Women bleed out of their ass, have diarrhea, and shove sticks up their butthole.

The only thing that should be the pedestal at this point in society is seeking wisdom.

RAGNAR_GZ · 2020-09-04T02:33:13+00:00

It’s like a new song you hear. At first it’s the greatest fucking thing to ever grace your ears since your little girlfriend screaming your name.

But know, if you listen to that song 50 times in a row you’ll probably fuck it up for yourself.

What if you instead enjoyed the entire album and enjoying the whole body of work. 15 songs! Then you go back to your favorites, but know there’s a lot more then just one song with more feelings and experiences.

This post is fucking gold, where do I come up with this stuff?

Vitamin_ABCDE · 2020-09-04T01:24:50+00:00

You have no abundance. This mindset comes from a place of scarcity, you're afraid of losing whatever girl you're seeing at the moment, so you feel like you must go balls to the wall, or she gets bored and finds someone else.

Solution - just like for 95% of the posts here, read the sidebar and meet more women.

BlocknGhost · 2020-09-04T03:38:02+00:00

You remain detached to by seeing them sporadically (once or twice every week or two), not spending the night together or pillow talking, limiting conversations over the phone and text, and exercising abundance. If you’ve already gotten attached against your own will and don’t want an LTR, then you need to end things with them and distance yourself - just rip the bandage off.

I always remind myself that the girls I’m dating, no matter how much I like them, can and will be gone in the drop of a hat the minute I’m no longer useful to them. I’m ready to lose them at any moment, and I always have one foot out the door in case things go south.

Snowboard18 · 2020-09-04T19:26:07+00:00

You just have to slowly turn yourself into a sociopath like the rest of us

DWS33_ · 2020-09-04T03:11:55+00:00

i find when i’m talking to diff women it prevents oneitis

adomuzas · 2020-09-04T03:59:02+00:00

Just accept mentally that she may be not into you, that things can go wrong and you are ok with that. Then you naturally look more relaxed and confident

In my experience visualization helps, meditate and imagine yourself reliving previous situation, try notice where the neediness is coming from and try to accept it.

319Skew · 2020-09-04T16:05:50+00:00

You're attempting to override years of ingrained doctrine. Date and fuck a lot of women and you realize that a lot of what they say, feel and do is repetitive.

Title	How can I get less attached?
Author	Nero8
Upvotes	5
Comments	11
Date	September 4, 2020 1:17 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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