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[–]ham_and_cheese5 points6 points7 points 11 years ago (10 children) | Copy Link
Poor guy doesn't want what he's learned to actually be the truth. I doubt anyone's going to tell him to just swallow the bitter reality and move on (and not be downvoted to oblivion).
[–]WorkThrow993 points4 points5 points 11 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
Of course he doesn't want to, because if you go the blue pill way, then love is something that happens and not something you have to work at. It's just magical, and nobody is responsible for it, it just happens, is eternal, and doesn't need to be maintained. It's way more comforting, and way less effort if you do believe the Hollywood myth. Who wants to have to maintain a relationship, it's almost the same work as raising children! TL;DR: He's been playing and now knows the effort that are required, he thought that the myth was just another reality, but it doesn't exist. He's the inverse of woman's "I've been slutting it up but now I want to settle down." Basically, "I've lived in the real world, but now I want the fantasy back".
WELL YOU CAN'T. You can't unswallow the red pill.
[–]throway34b2 points3 points4 points 11 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
I'm the OP from that link. You guys get it. I appreciate their insight, but people who haven't experienced it just don't understand. They think i can just replace my experiences with new new ones and it will change my outlook, but you can't change the past. I want so desperately to have my old view of things but I know that I can't. Is it possible to just accept it and move on?
[–]WorkThrow991 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Sure, you can tell yourself that Santa Claus also exist. Deep down you'll know, but I guess as long as everyone fakes it, even if everyone know, you can have some kind of happiness. Or, you can find someone who also fully understand that Santa Claus doesn't exist, and that you can both work in the real world, towards real goal. You've got friends, right? Think about it as a friend you'd want to see every day, but with whom you can be real, and also fuck. These are the women you want. They fully realize that there are no special snowflakes, but that doesn't mean you can't have something together. Think of it as a business partner who'll respect you and you can also respect. Think of it as nothing but an Hollywood and Disney fluffy bunny, fake, superficial, relationship who consist of fulfilling roles you have you been told, and instead go with someone who wants to be who they are, and understand your worth and whom you are. There is no such thing as "pure love" either you go out with someone who's a blue pill girl, and you fake being there too, which give you control, but runs the risk that she'll wake up to her hypergamy. Either you accept an hypergamist while knowing that nothing will ever be serious and solid, or, you find someone who's been rational enough all along to have woken up from bill pill, seen hypergamy for what it was, skipped it, and is now a god dam self-actualizing women who built her self worth not by the amount of dick she rode, and by deriving her worth by auxiliary worth, sucking up some men's worth and making it her's, and is instead a god damn self-built, solid individual. A man can only dream ... lol
[–]throway34b3 points4 points5 points 11 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Thank you, man. I think my unhappiness doesn't actually stem from how I view women now, but rather how much value I place in those views. One of the things that I think actually helped me get girls when i first started out was that I lived my life as if they didn't even matter, but once my eyes were opened to how they really are, they started to matter a lot. My life became about judging women's actions. I've been desperately searching for that woman who would prove me wrong, but she never came. I guess what I'm saying is that I need to just let go of this desire to go back to the way things were and try to find happiness and fulfillment in other ways. I'm going to starting living my life for me again and not caring what women do.
[–]Modredpillschool2 points3 points4 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I've been desperately searching for that woman who would prove me wrong,
I know your pain man. Part of this subreddit (the red pill) is about realizing that women aren't how fairy tales portray, and changing your expectations accordingly.
Most of the guys who end up here started off beta, realized they weren't successful with women, learned some game, got laid a bunch, then ended in your boat.
You are already successful, skipped the beta phase, and are now longing for women to be the completion to your picture- the salt to your pepper.
You'll find no solace in that view of women, and you already know it.
Take comfort that we understand the plight, and you should definitely stick around. Check out the sidebar while you're here, especially the following:
Women in Love
Men in Love
Of Love and War
Schedules of Mating
[–]throway34b0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I will, man. Thanks. It's always reassuring to know that you're not alone and no matter what you're going through, others have gone through it too.
[–]WorkThrow99-1 points0 points1 point 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Life your life for the sake of your life and yourself. Let women come and go, but don't put more effort into it than what you get in return. You shouldn't never invest yourself 100% in only one thing, and women are one of those things. When you are living your life for it's own sake, at some point women might come and join you, and you might part ways. Don't try and force it. You are already starting to focus on the road instead of the destination, now you just need to realize that everyone are on those roads. Some are just looking at destinations, you want to avoid those. Some are going to be going to same way as you for some bit, those people you want them around, but you have to know how to say goodbye when you get to a fork, and you aren't going the same way. Talk about goals, talk about inspirations, talk about what they are doing, and what they want to do, and try to see who want the end goal (be married) and those who want to live the road (be in a marriage). You might or might not share the road with some other, the period for which you'll share it might be long or not, just focus on going you own way, and don't get suckered into just tagging along. Sometimes it's worth it to make a detour to see something, as long as you don't lose sight on where you were going in the first place. You don't want to be one of those lost soul on the road of life, who are stuck in an unknown place, because they tagged along for too long, and have no clue anymore where they are. (This is when you have to stop, focus on yourself, and find yourself.)
The journey. Sometimes you travel along, sometimes you travel with someone, companionship isn't the focus, but it sure does help going along, unless you are dragging someone who just wants to tag along.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Is it possible to just accept it and move on?
You might find that accepting it takes a great weight off your shoulders.
[–]ham_and_cheese0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yeah, true. His condition is permanent.
[–]GeorgeGordonByron1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
cypher: Why oh why didn’t I take the BLUE pill?
there's a reason why truly intelligent and experienced men are 'misogynistic'. they get to see the ugly side of women. I empathize with guys that wish they can take it back.
[–]Modredpillschool0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
The Fempire: How this one escape our clutches? We must maim him and make him a weapon of our own uses!
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