Long story short, been going out with this girl for 6 months now. She was attracted to me being forward, taking what I want, my interests etc. Her parents came to town and I met them and it went great, they love me and she loved how I was with them.

My feelings for her have been growing and I feel my beta coming back out to match her feelings slowly.

But then I got drunk and stepped out of my frame while her parents were in town and she told me “I love you so much” and I reflexively said “love of my life”. She responded but I could sense a small hesitance, I could feel a bit of recoil from her which made me instantly feel a bit of desperation. Like oh fuck I just said something that’s a big deal way too early. Doesn’t help she’s out of town on a business trip right after and I’m imposing dread on myself. She’s not even doing anything wrong to do that. It’s almost like I broke my own frame and I’m turning myself off from myself.

I know the general answers - retreat a bit, start inducing bits of dread (which I have to admit I’ve been susceptible to her female versions of dread which when stepping back makes me feel so stupid), focus on myself.

My question is how do I reestablish my frame as best as possible? I have at least 4 other girls I can hit up if this goes belly up which either feels like a possibility now which if it does then fine, I have my own life and possibilities, and knowing it might makes me feel a lot stronger.

Just any tips to reestablish a slightly cracked frame basically would be great. Or reassurance