Here;s the dilemma. I'm in an 2 year LTR with my gf where said female is reluctant about bjs. She hasn't been overt of her dislike of it, but there have been a few time where when I need it or ask for one I get the "Sorry" or "Maybe later" move. For the majority of our LTR, our relationship has been fun and chill, but its this one issue keeps popping up and I can't shake it. I feel like she tryna "get the milk without buying the cow" and for me no bjs are a deal breaker. Like who tf doesn't want to be able to relax and enjoy the sensation of a bj?

It's been going this long because the plain old intercourse is fine, she'll throw that in a minute if I want, but bjs are what I have come to see as a boundary for her that she doesn't want. We've talked, "compromised" (as in she's say if you want it I'll do it but then no change occurs), but I think we just might be sexually incompatible. Here's the kicker - We just signed a 12 month lease. I guess this post reeks of beta male and that's my fault I get it. Hopefully you all might have some advice of how I should go about this effectively cause I'm tired of talking about this shit to her at this point?

TLDR: In 2 year LTR. GF doesn't want to suck dick (even though she was when I met her). Now we just moved in together, and I'm realizing nothing's gonna change. What to do now?